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Using Therapeutic Communication to Connect with Patients

Often patients need enough emotional space to reduce any inner stuckness in their situation. They need to do this before they can adequately absorb information or effectively take next steps. Empathy can help with this. Empathy requires an intention to connect non-judgmentally. This gets better with practice. Read on for examples of how a situation can play out with, and without, empathy. And...
Using an Anchor in Self-Empathy

An anchor awakens parts of you that can access a bigger perspective. Also, it can reduce your reactivity, increase conscious relating, and support self-compassion. An anchor helps you get a little bit bigger than the reactivity you are experiencing so that you can access a wiser discernment. It is simple, and can be done anytime and anywhere. Learn to direct your attention to develop your...
Money and the Web of Love

Our ability to reduce our reliance on money, or even exit the logic of money and exchange in our own thinking, is limited by the degree of trust we have that our needs will be met without it. The more we can enter into sufficient trust, the more we can enter into a web of sharing resources -- borne from a place of love. Read on for more. Read this article Keywords: resource allocation needs...
Understand And Dissolve Obstacles To Setting Life-Serving Boundaries

There are ways to reduce obstacles to setting boundaries. Notice unconscious ways you sacrifice yourself in order to avoid boundary setting. List of signs that a life-serving boundary is needed, but you're denying this. Realizing you consistently abandoned your needs may require time to process and mourn before you can set boundaries consistently. With practice, you can recognize boundaries...
The Murky Waters of Asymmetric Relationships

Lately there has been, in our global trainers’ community, a conversation about how to deal with instances of trainers having sex with participants, at the trainings or immediately after. And many questions started to be presented into the field, some of them made me shook my head in puzzlement. One of the most typical questions I hear is: “Why singling out sex as something dirty, wrong, almost...
Becoming Allies for Our Kids

around these stories and passed from one generation to the next. Beginning in childhood we are trained to take our place within the construct of this story. The cycle has no beginning or end. Education and socialization influence human behavior, leading to theories of human nature we tell ourselves resulting in the impact upon social institutions that influence education and socialization. It is...
Meeting Our Need for Sexual Expression

Trainer Tip "The difference between a dream and a goal is a timeline." —Dr. Phil McGraw Have you ever tried to tell your partner that your sexual needs were not met? Such a conversation is bound to promote defensiveness and hurt feelings, unless you keep the conversation focused on your needs, not her lack of skill, and you make a very specific request. Telling someone that you do not enjoy...
Self-Righteous Anger

Trainer Tip Hating people is like burning down your house to get rid of a rat. —Harry Emerson Fosdick Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel. The same is true for resentment and anger. Don’t you just feel awful when you are filled with them? How...
I Want To Connect More Than I Want To Be Right

Trainer Tip There is a place where words are born of silence, A place where the whispers of the heart arise. —Rumi What do you value most? I value connection more than anything. If I connect with people, all of us have a better chance of getting our needs met. The alternative is to try to win or be right. I used to do this with a vengeance. Years ago, I was working with a woman who was learning...
Reaching Critical Mass

This week as the U.S. population continues to be dangerously divided on who won the presidential election, and the surging pandemic takes its devastating toll, I have been more deeply than ever contemplating the question, how can empathic communication go further out into the world to help people and the planet? What came first were the words “critical mass,” in the sense of a tipping point. I...