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Everyday Parenting Challenges

they build lifelong relationships with their children upon a foundation of trust and connection. Ingrid points out that there are three options for parents in any dialogue: Self-connection / self-empathy — connecting with the parent’s deep underlying needs Empathy for the other person/child — holding both the child and parent’s needs as precious Honest Expression — Using the classical NVC model...
9 Skills for Navigating Conflict

even in the heat of conflict How to use the power of gratitude to create the energy to sustain yourself in the midst of conflict and enhance connection with others Ways to increase your self-empathy skills to support you in cooling down from reactivity, both yours and other’s How to make powerful requests that deepen mutual understanding and support the flow of connection Strategies for finding...
The Power of Authenticity + Care

or shame in ourselves-- is it possible to be intensely authentic while holding care for everyone in the situation? Can we effectively do this even as a third party witnesses to these things? Self-empathy, empathy, and a commitment to authenticity have become essential tools I need to keep sharpened in my toolbox if I am to show up and do the work I value in this world. Read this article...
Group Feedback

certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones. What we need is more modeling and coaching from trainers, or at least people who are more fluent in NVC and empathy than we are. We don't have trainers or other experienced NVCers in our area and I fear that if we can't find a way to move to the next level, the group may not survive, which would be a shame...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 7

then you can ask if there is anything else that is difficult for them in regards to the ongoing conflict. Next, before you share about what is difficult for you, I highly recommend you give them empathy or tell them back what you’re hearing: “I want to make sure I’m understanding you, can I tell you what I’m hearing from you?” If you can include needs guesses when you tell the other person what...
Safe Experimentation

set it aside. Instead of perfection, let’s try safe experimentation: Acknowledge that whenever we try a new behavior, it’s bound to take us a few times before we get it right. Let’s use learning empathy as an example. Empathy is listening for the feelings and needs of another person. Pick just one person today to empathize with. It could be your boss, colleague, friend, child, partner, or...
Past Stories, Present Feelings

I have a professional relationship that has triggered great pain and inconvenience in my life for the last four and a half years. People from my practice group have offered me 20-25 hours of empathy in the last two years. I have given them some information but never in a coherent manner. We do not usually have enough time but also we are trying to "stay in the present." I found myself grieving...
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

(rather than "can't"). Speed up learning by keeping a jackal book: You can note stimulus/situation, need(s) unmet, good reasons for doing it, then write “how I could meet both needs...” . Self-empathy is seeing the truth of what needs were motivating our actions. It is not looking at the world through rose-colored glasses. It is being honest so I can learn in ways that may help me find a...
Radical Understanding In A Post-Truth World

by many others. So, the radical understanding I am proposing is not about giving up on objective truth or facts or acting to serve and protect the well-being of ourselves and others. It is about empathy and openness to others and their beliefs, finding a way to connect and cooperate no matter how disparate our realities of the world or the external sources of information we may believe in. And...
The Heart of Conflict

lessons covering the essential elements needed in order to begin to use the NVC process during conflict situations. This 6-session telecourse recording integrates the skills and consciousness of empathy, honesty and self-connection in the context of becoming a "third presence" with others who are in conflict. Topics include: Focusing on observations, feelings, needs and requests to support...