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How To Resource In The Expansive Perspective

In the face of stress you can find ways to be present for what’s happening, rather than being pulled or pushed around by anxious thoughts or fearful feelings. Here are some strategies to return to and maintain expanded awareness. See this learning tool Keywords: Anxiety Stress Grounded Centered Resourced Reactivity Fear Pause Practice LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Transforming Society Through Organizations

When we apply and practice NVC over a number of months in an organization, it can create group norms that make learning go deep faster. These new norms can impact people's interactions with others both inside and outside of work. From here, there's potential for people to start seeing value when they share these skills and experiences. This may create a ripple effect of interest in applying NVC...
How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

While someone is upset or hurt they may "listen" to us to gather evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask...
Being Yourself And Asking For What You Want

Let's look at the resources, awareness, and skills needed to ask for emotional attunement, celebration, relatedness, perspective, understanding, advice, and information. This includes expressing appreciation for what's supporting your needs, strengthening a sense of worthiness, and awareness of your reactivity and intention. Plus, making requests that are clear, specific, doable and creates a...
A Process For Changing Habits

Let's take a look at life-serving possibilities for changing a habit: contemplation of the benefits and costs of the habit, changing the conditions in your life to support the new habit, and taking support away from the old habit. Read on for more. Read this article Keywords: habit resolution self control discipline willpower practice LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Offering Presence For Repetitive Fears

Three things can be helpful to practice when you want to contribute to someone caught in repetitive fears: self empathy, allowing grief for what you wish was true and is not, and empathy for their difficulty. You can also ask them what's helpful. Read this article Keywords: fear anxiety presence worry supporting others reassurance LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
How To Stay Grounded In A Reactive Moment

To shift reactivity by moving yourself from the position of experiencer to observer, name what’s happening. This can help you access other skills for managing reactivity. Also, create a strong emotional anchor. Read this article Keywords: reactivity anchoring centering practice self inquiry LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Four Choices For Responding To Indirect Criticism Or Judgement

However indirectly expressed, any judgement or criticism is about the person's own thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests.This awareness can help you take people's comments less personally, and give you options: silent self-empathy, standing in your truth, contact and curiosity, and honest expression Read this article Keywords: criticism judgement practice passive aggression conflict LaShelle...
How to Balance Differentiation and Bonding

Thriving relationships have both differentiation and bonding. When that happens, you can authentically express differences and unmet needs, and responsibly do your own thing without it being a threat to the bond with another. You honor each others choices. There's trust rather than a sense of resentful obligation, needs-based negotiation is easier. Notice signs of not enough differentiation or...
Growing Intimacy and Expanding Love

Do you crave greater intimacy with your partner? Wish you had more ease for asking for what you want? You’re not alone! Nearly 50% of adults long for more intimacy in their relationships (according to attachment science). Take a step forward and learn practical tips for building intimacy with your partner. Let Kelly Bryson, 20+ years CNVC Certified Trainer and Marriage and Family Therapist,...