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Defusing Anger

Trainer Tip Hatred is a feeling, which leads to the extinction of values. —José Ortega y Gasset Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider someone who calls people names in a rage, or hits another person, or walks off slamming the doors behind him. All of these are methods...
Embracing the Shadow

Access this complete 6 session course This six session course offers an opportunity for your internal committee to stop fighting and start collaborating! You'll learn to build on NVC principles, explore new avenues for unleashing the power of empathy, and create opportunities for inner alignment. During this course, you'll learn how to: Embrace the purpose of each inner voice of the psyche…...
Differentiate Compassion From Rescuing

Is it tough to see a loved go through hardship? May you have tension building up inside and draw a rigid boundary, or feel the urgency to swoop in and try to “rescue” them with advice, consoling, cheering up, analyzing, or explaining? Instead, relax your body. Invite your emotions to flow with acceptance. Notice inner peace and expansion. See this person as someone on a journey to awakening...
Nonviolent Communication Basics

Here are some very basic forms and distinctions of NVC. It covers the 4 D's, OFNR, some NVC distinctions, tips, quotes from Marshall Rosenberg, and "feelings and needs" lists, and more. As with any art, these rudiments necessarily must be learned, practiced, understood, embodied and then let go of so as not to become rote and block creativity.. Read this article Keywords: observation feeling...
NVC Life Hacks 36

How can Nonviolent Communication practices support us when we're feeling depressed? Taking a look at some characteristics of depression and how they're linked to unmet needs, we offer some steps to take that help you reconnect with life and others. Keywords: Trainer Tip Shantigarbha Warren depression feelings strategies unmet needs needs not met needs consciousness
Group Feedback

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, I'm part of a small, self-led NVC group that's been working together for almost two years. Currently, we're going through Marshall's book for the second time and experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones. What we need is more modeling and coaching from trainers, or at...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 17

Author and psychotherapist Francis Weller believes that we each carry a heavy load of grief. In his interview in the Oct. 2105 issue of The Sun (The Geography of Sorrow) he explains that through most of human history grieving was communal. There were songs and rituals to support people to grieve and let the energy of grief move through. Without communal rituals or some kind of support for...
Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Trainer Tip "Love is the recognition of Oneness, of knowing yourself as other. The Oneness is love." —Eckhart Tolle Can you hold onto your reality while simultaneously acknowledging someone else’s reality? What I mean is, can you have an argument with your partner and speak up for your view of things, while also acknowledging his view? This ability is the ultimate goal. It eliminates right and...
Idiomatic vs. Formal Compassionate Communication

Trainer Tip Every thought is new when an author expresses it in a manner peculiar to himself. —Marquis de Vauvenargues Do you sometimes feel awkward when you use the four components of Compassionate Communication (observation, feeling, need, request)? The four components are a tool to help people interact with others in a connected and compassionate manner. Formal use of the language is very...
Why I'm Grieving the Loss of Both Israelis and Palestinians

The past week since the horrific terrorist attacks in Israel by Hamas and the ensuing war in Gaza have been extraordinarily difficult. As distraught as I feel, I cannot begin to fathom the shock, grief, and pain of those directly affected. Yet I have been profoundly affected emotionally, both as a longtime peace activist and as an American Jew born to an Israeli parent. As a Buddhist meditation...