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Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal

Trainer Tip I particularly hope to address parents’ yearning for deeper connection with themselves, their partners, and their children, and their desire to contribute, through parenting, to fostering peace in the world. —Inbal Kashtan Parents are often tempted to wield their enormous physical, emotional, and intellectual power in order to coerce their children into doing what they want. This...
What Is NVC? A Restorative Path to Connection and Healing

Aya Caspi describes Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a restorative practice—one that reconnects us with life, trust, and the experience of mattering. She reflects on Marshall Rosenberg’s vision of NVC as a “language of life,” helping us shift from disconnection to connection, from distrust to trust. Aya shares how every NVC practice is designed to meet needs and restore well-being—both within...
Your Inner Leader

When building successful relationships, it can be very helpful to see yourself as a collection of different inner parts that developed due to various life experiences. Without empathy and acknowledgment, our inner parts tend to work against us. That's when we're called upon to build and develop our inner leadership... Read this trainer tip Keywords: inner work inner conflict parts work...
New Year's Revolutions - For a Change

Here's a four step exercise applying a needs-based approach to effective goals, habits and New Year's Resolutions: Read This Tip Keywords: emotional liberation resolutions goals New year habits sabotage change Trainer Tip Jori Manske
Trauma and Sanctuary

One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma. Read this...
The Mobilizing Power of Anger

Anger can result in violence or in a movement towards positive change. We can see this happen in the push for racial justice. When you perceive anger as a form of violence your nervous system becomes activated. Your perspective narrows and old conditioning can take over leading to overwhelm, defensiveness, hatred, or violence. Read on for four ways to to respond to our own or others' anger in a...
Being Yourself And Asking For What You Want

Let's look at the resources, awareness, and skills needed to ask for emotional attunement, celebration, relatedness, perspective, understanding, advice, and information. This includes expressing appreciation for what's supporting your needs, strengthening a sense of worthiness, and awareness of your reactivity and intention. Plus, making requests that are clear, specific, doable and creates a...
Moving Towards Life-Serving Responsibility in NVC

In the "obnoxious stage" we care for our needs in a way that doesn't respect others' needs. In the "emotional liberation" stage we fully care for others' needs as much as our own—while being free of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation. Often NVC training teaches us how to achieve the latter stage without the former. For greater compassion we can be more rigorous in how we talk about...
Codependency

Codependency occurs when others' behavior affects us in unhealthy ways and we get obsessed with controlling their behavior. For example, we may focus on other's needs while neglect what matters to us, and resent it. Or we may depend on others to rescue us from results of our actions. Or we may fix or rescue others' neglected responsibilities. Or we may make others responsible for our needs....
Little Hints For Contributing To A Secure Bond With Your Partner

Research shows that couples with a secure bond experience arguments that are shorter, lower in intensity, and easier to recover from. Building and keeping a secure bond with your partner requires mindfulness and consistency: respond to what’s needed or supportive in a given moment; give them your full attention and affection in a spacious greeting; conveying care, consideration, and that they...