Browse by Topic

NVC Resources on Feelings

Search Terms:

Advanced Search

Select Media Type, Click Search

The Heart of the Matter

Do you want to increase your capacity to identify and connect with feelings and needs? Would you like to enhance your ability to translate judgments? Join Miki for this deep dive into feelings and needs. In this course recording, you’ll learn skills and practices to: Identify your basic feeling “flavor” and increase your fluency with feeling words Recognize the needs hidden within hard-to-hear...
NVC Life Hacks 37

We can get stuck in our heads. All kinds of thoughts float into our minds. We then get thoughts about those thoughts, they might even make you feel a certain way or change a behaviour. But what happens when we connect our feelings with the physical sensations in our bodies? As part of our teaching at NVC we have incorporated movement work to help us connect with where we hold emotions and how...
Mourning Our Disappointments

Trainer Tip Mourning in Nonviolent Communication is the process of fully connecting with the unmet needs and feelings that are generated when we have been less than perfect. —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. We mourn when we acknowledge the feelings and unmet needs associated with regret without any sense of guilt or shame. When we do this, we can see how our behavior has negatively affected our...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 13

This Tip for the Road is my answer to the question: What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships. No. 8. Follow Your Dreams and Find Your Purpose Keep doing what you love. Keep inspiring yourself. Keep living into your deepest...
Colloquial NVC Options

How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language. KEYS: Fluency in our use of NVC rests on the foundation of connecting with compassion for self and other,...
Expressing Vulnerable Honesty While Fearful

What do you do when you are thinking that it's not "emotionally safe" to speak honestly? Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores this topic with a workshop participant. {attachment:all} Keywords: demands feelings honesty presence requests strategies personal growth relationships honest expression authenticity vulnerability acceptance NVC in relationships self worth self...
Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

I. Assumptions Underlying the Practice of Nonviolent Communication Following are key assumptions that NVC practice is based on. Many traditions share these assumptions; NVC gives us concrete, powerful tools for putting them into practice. When we live based on these assumptions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy. All human beings share the same...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 9

Nonviolent Communication includes a practice of empathy that involves listening for feelings and needs no matter how someone expresses themselves, and reflecting back the feelings and needs when it is helpful to do so. You can reflect back in a traditional NVC manner, or in a more creative way, with metaphors. For example, of traditional NVC reflection, if a friend says, “I hate my job.” • You...
Parenting for Connection

When I was a boy I received a King Kong action figure for my birthday. At that time I really liked King Kong and this gift was very special. While playing with my toy I soon found out that my little brother (around 3 years old) was afraid of my King Kong doll. So like a good big brother I ran around the house scaring him by showing him the doll and by roaring like King Kong. My brother, of...
Why Do I Feel Depressed?

When does identifying our or others' needs become a coping mechanism that hides the real problems that go unaddressed, and thereby reinforcing problems? This article zooms out to take a look at how dealing with our needs in the absence of the larger picture can inadvertertly support unhealthy ways of operating, rather than become a healthy solution. It asks us to see what could be hidden --...