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Communicating With People Who Don’t Share Our Values

Trainer Tip Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace. —Amelia Earhart Nonviolent Communication works with everyone, even people who aren’t familiar with the process or don’t share our values for connection and compassion. In fact, compassion automatically blossoms when we stay true to the principles of Nonviolent Communication. We don’t try to convince anyone to do it our way or...
What’s Important to You?

For me this exercise is most often the first activity in a beginning level workshop after the usual logistics/history/check-in. I experience it as wonderfully alive. It's also an opportunity for people to build connection with one another. It has worked well for a variety of different groups, whatever the age level, history or current life challenges. I usually use a flipchart or a whiteboard....
Street Giraffe Tips

"Would you tell me what you heard me say?" Does the thought of asking this of someone stop you cold? Mary Mackenzie offers a simpler method to support your need for being heard that also helps you to connect more with your non-NVC friends and family. She assures you that by learning a few "street giraffe" tips you can bring the heart of NVC to every dialogue, and enjoy greater connection and...
Nonviolent Communication Circle of Life

Circle of Life Description NVC Circle of Life Mandala Color Illustration The NVC Circle of Life is a mandala illustrating the process and consciousness of Nonviolent Communication. Mandala literally means "sacred circle" and has been used for centuries as a pictorial representation symbolizing wholeness, balance and harmony. ~ INNER CIRCLE ~ The four components of Nonviolent Communication –...
Modeling Behaviors You’d Like to Receive

Trainer Tip I wish with all my heart that we had been able to give the previous generation of students these (Nonviolent Communication) skills. I’m certain if we had, they would have had other means for resolving their differences than violence. —A teacher in Belgrade, Yugoslavia The ways that we interact with our children shape the way they will interact in their world. Our actions either...
The Spiritual Path of NVC

Listen to Session 1 Listen to Session 2 Are you a spiritual seeker who longs for an approach that supports compassion for self as well as profound spiritual transformation? If so, you’ll enjoy this dynamic discussion with veteran trainer, Robert Gonzales, and Intuitive Storyteller, Leo Sofer as they explore how NVC can be used as a spiritual path. These discussions will surely support your...
Perceiving Reality

Trainer Tip "The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them." —Thomas Merton Often, when we start a new relationship, we twist reality to suit our needs. We like most of the qualities of our new girlfriend, so we pretend that her incessant swearing and burping...
Requests, the Fourth Component of Compassionate Communication

Trainer Tip We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes. —John F. Kennedy Over the past few days, we have looked at the first three components of Compassionate Communication: observations, feelings, and needs. The fourth component is making a request. This component is critical because it clarifies for you and the people in your life what it would take to meet your need....
Enemy Images

Trainer Tip Sometimes a slight difference in where we stand can dramatically change how we see things. —Melody Beattie Do you harbor negative thoughts about others? Do these negative feelings affect your ability to enjoy those relationships or communicate effectively? When you foster resentment or anger toward other people, your focus is on your perceptions of the other person’s foibles. Your...
Connection, Connection, Connection

Trainer Tip "I want to connect more than I want to be right and more than I want to win!" —Mary Mackenzie Do you get into “right fights”? You know you’re in one when you’re arguing with somebody in order to be right or because you want to win. In these arguments we are rarely trying to connect. Being right is the name of the game. Why do we do this? For many, it is an attempt to meet needs for...