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How to Open Your Holiday Presence

Though the holidays are supposed to be a time of connection and celebration, emotional pain and suffering may arise, even in the midst of the festivities. Before painful situations arrive, you can build resources that will enable you to bounce back more quickly. You can have more balance, perspective and choice by training yourself to include attention on needs that are satisfied and by deeply...
Don't Take It Personally

As our awareness grows, so does the image of the web, for we are the universe becoming conscious of itself. With sensibilities evolved through millennia of interaction, we can turn now and know that web as our home. It both cradles us and calls us to weave it further. —Joanna Macy You’ve heard it many times. “Don’t take it personally” .. a modern day aphorism commonly espoused in personal and...
Cause of Feelings

Sylvia Haskvitz uses a personal example to illustrate the cause of our feelings. Many of us habitually blame other people for our feelings but our own state of needs is the true cause. In this powerful audio, Sylvia teaches you how to manage your emotions in challenging situations and demonstrates the process of Screaming in Giraffe. The goal is to develop new habits that better serve your life...
About Guilt and How Apologizing Falls Short

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she examines the nature of guilt and how apologizing often fails to connect us to our needs. {attachment:all} Keywords: feelings honesty needs presence personal growth relationships honest expression authenticity vulnerability acceptance NVC in relationships guilt apology apologizing universal human needs Arnina Kashtan
Self-Empathy Basics

Watch this video and feel as if you are actually present at the workshop! Mary Mackenzie demonstrates two exercises that will help you learn fast “on the run” self-empathy techniques. These practical techniques guide you toward noticing your physical sensations, feelings and needs. The two fast “on the run” self-empathy techniques covered in this video are: “I love it when (insert need) ….”...
The Tao of Empathy

“The Chinese philosopher, Chuang-Tzu, stated that true empathy requires listening with the whole being: ‘…it demands the emptiness of all the faculties. And when the faculties are empty, then the whole being listens. There is then a direct grasp of what is right there before you that can never be heard with the ear or understood with the mind.'" --Excerpt from Nonviolent Communication: A...
The Big Why

Ask yourself what you want, and then ask one of the following two questions: If you had that, then what would you have? If you had that, what would that give you? These two questions will take you deeper and deeper to universal human needs. Try it. Keywords: needs Alan Seid
The Price of Nice

Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate. The antidotes: honesty, passion and compassion. Have you been a naughty or a nice boy or girl? You have been Nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward for being a good little boy or girl, i.e. depression,...
Compassionate Communication and Empathy's Awakening

John Cunningham provides support to deepen your understanding and practice of NVC, including a sketch of the participatory and onlooker modes of consciousness, lists of feelings, needs and sample dialogues. It includes an overview of Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication, a sketch of the participatory and onlooker modes of consciousness, lists of feelings and needs and sample dialogues....
Poetic License

Poetic License is a fun group exercise that's sure to incite laughter in your NVC group! (This game originated from Doug Dolstad) Instructions: In a group circle, everyone has a piece of notebook paper. Everyone writes an "observation" phrase across the top of the page ("When I see/hear _______"); and folds the paper over so that what they have written is hidden. Each person passes their paper...