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Learn the Difference Between Observation and Observation Mixed with Evaluation

Recollecting the Indian philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti, Marshall calls the capability of distinguishing observation mixed with evaluation from observation, "the highest form of human intelligence." A useful exercise for me in practicing observation skills consists of mindful walking. First, setting an intention to connect with myself, I begin walking, preferably with no set direction in mind....
A More Expansive Understanding of Observations

Roxy Manning discusses the need to expand our understanding of observations within Nonviolent Communication (NVC). She challenges the idea of objective observation, noting its limitations, and introduces internal observations, citing personal experiences to illustrate their influence on emotions and self-perception. Additionally, she emphasizes systemic awareness as a crucial aspect of...
Increasing Presence Through Observations

CNVC Certified Trainer, John Kinyon, leads participants through two Observation Exercises to strengthen their ability to be present. Through the exercises, John distinguishes the difference between feelings, which are emotions felt inside the body, and observations which are witness to our experience. John further discusses why it is our thinking that causes our suffering rather than the...
Connected Parenting: Making Observations

In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, explores observation in contrast to interpretation, and leads an exercise in observation skills. This recording is an excerpt from Inbal's audio CD, Connected Parenting: Nonviolent Communication in Family Life. Keywords: interpretation exercises/practices observation connection judgment...
Separating Observations And Evaluations

where I had been, But he was not a stupid kid. Before you call him stupid, think, was he a stupid kid or did he just know different things than you did? —Ruth Bebermeyer Oftentimes we blend an observation—the facts of a situation—with our own opinion. Here is an example: Say your brother spent all of Saturday helping a friend put a new roof on his house. An observation mixed with an evaluation...
3 Levels of Observation

There is more to the NVC skill of Observation than the external level of what a video camera sees or hears. In this video, Roxy demonstrates that to fully understand what is happening, we need to know all three layers of observation: External, Internal, and Systemic. Keywords: Roxy Manning observation NVC basics systemic internal observations meaning social change
Unpacking Observations

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Observation, the First Component of Nonviolent Communication

the wall, you could also identify the artist), and that three times this week, your husband has come home later than you remember he agreed to. In Nonviolent Communication, this is called the observation: the facts of what you saw or heard. Think of it as a snapshot of what happened or a recording of what was said, without adding in your own judgments or reasons why you think it happened. When...
Can NVC Be Learned Without Learning Observation, Feeling, Need and Request?

In this enlightening Trainer Conversation, three veteran CNVC Certified Trainers discuss whether NVC can be learned without first learning Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests (OFNR). The conversation naturally meanders as the trainers grapple with the question, eventually covering a wide-range of topics including the spirituality and true essence of NVC. Keywords: consciousness feelings...
Living in the Observation as a Daily Practice

my U-turn, I saw the lady’s car and hit my breaks. We did not collide. I mouthed an apology. She smiled and gave me the American Sign Language sign for Love.” This is what I call Living in the Observation. At first, noticing that my brain wants to find blame, fault – or label it right, wrong, good or bad in a situation. Then, asking myself what actually happened, in detail. Most times, including...