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Core Beliefs and Gratitude Exercise

of gratitude. The process below is one of my favorite methods for doing this, and it is based on Robert Gonzales’s work. Getting a closer look at core jackal thoughts/beliefs: Identify the observation/stimulus you are reacting to. Write down your thoughts, what you are telling yourself in relation to the stimulus. Follow these thoughts to something you might call a core jackal belief, one that...
NVC and Inner Relationship Focusing

promotes connection to the body’s felt sense NVC frequently asks the question, “What is alive in you?” IRF offers a way to situate yourself with what is alive NVC expression uses the model of Observation, Feeling, Need and Request IRF expression uses presence language as the container for what is arising inside NVC explores self-empathy IRF explores Self-in-Presence = acknowledging and...
NVC as Spiritual Practice

offers practices while exploring the relationship between the core elements of NVC and universal spiritual principles. A primary template for the class is using the four NVC components of Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request to support meditative presence and awareness, in conjunction with four universal spiritual principles: Being in the present moment Acceptance of what is Nonattachment to...
Owning Your Own Experience

Begin with an intention to be gentle with yourself in a process of self-connection. Remember a time today when you felt a sense of constriction. Write a brief description of what happened. (the Observation) Explore your emotional experience. First, notice your physical sensation and emotions. Lean into the experience with curiosity. Then, tune into what you are telling yourself. Let the “jackal”...
Listen to the Universe

Project. This game and 149 other fun NVC related exercises are available in the GROK Facilitation Manual along with other fun learning tools from GROK, Inc. Keywords: exercises/practices observation listening groups fun happiness games Christine King Jean Morrison
NVC Mingle

are available in the GROK Facilitation Manual along with other fun learning tools from GROK, Inc. (Adapted from theater improvisation games and "New Games") Keywords: exercises/practices observation Practice Group listening groups fun happiness games Christine King Jean Morrison
Appreciation vs. Approval, Compliments or Praise

when we say, “Wow! When you brought me chicken soup when I had the flu, I felt so grateful, because it met my needs for nurturing and care.” In this example, the person is 1) expressing an observation—“When you brought me chicken soup when I had the flu,” 2) expressing a feeling—“I felt so grateful,” and 3) expressing a need—“because it met my needs for nurturing and care.” By comparison, “Wow!...
Transforming Complaint

until you “get to Zero”. Here’s one empathic process to support “Zeroing”. PART 1 From Complaint to Commitment Conflict often begins with a complaint. Complaint, by definition is rooted in observation, based on perceptions revealed by the five senses. Write down a complaint you have: How do we know we have a complaint? The symptoms include painful sensations/emotions (feelings) and alienating...
Overcoming Insecurity in Friendships

us in their lives. And, sometimes it’s just not. Wonder no more. Now is the time to take action. Consider asking a clarifying question using all four components of Compassionate Communication: Observation: “Sometimes when we’re together Feelings: I feel a little awkward and I’m telling myself that you probably have much more important things to do. Needs: I like the intimacy that I experience...
Honesty Is the Key

When we are not honest, we tend to create resentments and judgments, which bring discord and emotional distance to relationships. The four components to expressing ourselves honestly are: Observation: expressing the facts of what happened. Feelings: expressing how we felt about it. Need: clarifying our needs that were met or unmet. Request: making a specific and doable request. Notice and act on...