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Embracing the Body

yourself? This question applies to all aspects of life, both at work and at home. How are you: 1) gaining clarity around your needs; 2) managing your internal reactions; and 3) clarifying your requests before you open your mouth (or judge) others? This is why self-empathy – which Dian calls “self-management,” now a buzzword in business – is central to the practice of Nonviolent Communication....
Use of “To Be” Verbs

dwelling on the "pure" need, with no thought or image about it being met, just focusing on the pure, life-serving/enriching quality itself. I try to get people to fully do this before moving to requests; i.e., specific ways one would like to get a need met. Hope this is helpful, —John Kinyon Keywords: consciousness needs strategies personal growth naturalizing NVC John Kinyon
Partnership Paradigms in Schools

What do you experience when you give up on needs that are important to you, and are coerced into doing something you didn’t want to do? And why is it hard to make requests? Listen in and learn more. Keywords: Teacher Education Schools NVC Application Jared Finkelstein Lore Baur
Building Trust

How is trust best supported? Do you know what you do to contribute to making it easier or more difficult for others to express the truth (even in the most mundane moments)? Smaller requests can also built trust over time if they're rooted in the present moment, and are specific enough. Learn more about building trust... Read this article Keywords: trust truth trust hiding secrecy transparency...
NVC Flow

This single-page handout illustrates the steps to translating habitual judgments and actions into observations, feelings, needs, and requests (OFNR). See this handout Keywords: Handout flowchart illustration OFNR habit choice learning tool Peggy Smith
Helping Another Find Willingess

grief. As you grapple with your own desire for someone to find their willingness, its essential to recognize that this is about you and your needs. You can also express your needs honestly, make requests for how to collaborate, and be responsive to what they want. Read on for more on this, plus four common ways someone’s willingness might be blocked. Read this article Keywords: stubborn...
Staying Self-Connected in a Challenging Dialogue

and needs; then feel your grief or disappointment; followed by getting curious about the other party's needs and context -- and then based on collective needs and the long term effects make requests or take aligned action that works for all. See this article Keywords: Judgement Conflict Reactive Energy of the Need LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
How to Meet Hurt and Pain From the Past

to do with the present. When that happens we can gain perspective by self reflecting, engaging self empathy, grounding an "anchor", noticing the present-moment safety, naming needs and making requests Read this article Keywords: hurt reactivity anger self regulation LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Recognize and Manage Reactivity About Your Cause

inspire change, get curious about how they relate to the topic – and get support for yourself elsewhere to process grief, become more present and compassionate, speak self-responsibly, and make requests. Read this practice exercise Keywords: activism reactivity transformation superiority conflict peace LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

creativity and equanimity may become more possible when you would like someone to meet a particular need, can trust that you can meet that need with someone else, and can accept a “no” to your requests. You can allow grief or disappointment to arise, and naturally turn towards a relationship in which those needs can be met. In some cases this may lead to the dissolution of a partnership or...