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Being Persistent About Getting Our Needs Met

Trainer Tip By perseverance the snail reached the ark. —Charles Haddon Spurgeon Do you ever find yourself in an argument that doesn’t seem to have a solution? Consider this couple’s situation. The husband picks up after himself and he likes a neat home; the wife tends to put things down and leave them there. Their arguments usually involve the husband accusing the wife of being lazy and...
Getting Beyond Our Self-Defeating Behaviors

Trainer Tip There is no way to peace; peace is the way. —A.J. Muste Have you ever noticed yourself doing something that shakes the serenity of your colleagues, your family, or yourself? We have become so used to conflict that we hardly know how to handle some situations without it. Not long ago, I participated in a committee of Nonviolent Communication trainers. I was starting to tell myself...
How To Deal With Difficult People

Sometimes it may be difficult to talk to someone who is criticizing, judging, or blaming you. It may be just as difficult to deal with someone who is giving you the silent treatment, giving you the cold shoulder or just plain throwing a tantrum. So, here are some tips on how to deal with those difficult people who have a hard time communicating what they want to say in a loving and kind way....
Parenting Series: Listening for the Needs

Using her own and participants’ examples, Inbal enlightens parents on where they might be struggling with connecting to their children’s needs, especially in situations where the children are responding to the parent’s request. Inbal offers a new definition of interdependence, then explores the variety of feelings and needs that can be present in any given situation between parent and child,...
How To Make A Relationship A Priority While Maintaining Autonomy

Part of making your relationship a priority while maintaining autonomy means you consider the impact your actions may have on your relationship and look to negotiate ways all needs can be honored. To do this while not losing yourself, practice writing down your needs and guessing their needs, beforehand. Make an upfront request to create a shared understanding about what’s most important,...
Intrinsic Need for Respect

In this short but profound audio, Susan Skye unpacks the various ways one may view (and experience) the need for respect. By deepening your understanding of respect, you will enjoy greater choice and clarity in your own experience of respect and in making a request of others. Listen, and discover two ways Susan views the need for respect: Respect as a pathway to honoring life that represents...
Apologizing in NVC Language

In this brief audio, Jim Manske uses a live situation to demonstrate how to use the NVC process in an apology. Jim starts by identifying the four steps to self-connection before expressing your apology: Identify what you are apologizing for Clarify your feelings associated with the situation Identify the need you were trying to meet Craft a statement that represents what you’d like to say to...