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almost two years. Currently, we're going through Marshall's book for the second time and experiencing some growing pains in that we're still not certain how and under what circumstances to make requests, especially negative ones. What we need is more modeling and coaching from trainers, or at least people who are more fluent in NVC and empathy than we are. We don't have trainers or other...
NVC Tools

By using his own examples and those put forth by participants, Wes touches on the following key differentiations of NVC: Needs vs. strategies Protective use of force vs. punitive use of force Requests vs. demands Keywords: consciousness demands feelings needs observation protective use of force requests strategies connection inspiration personal growth OFNR universal human needs Wes Taylor
Confidentiality Agreement

affect other people and the natural environment, and we need each other to live and thrive. I hope this helps! —Miki Kashtan, Oakland, California, USA Keywords: empathy needs Practice Group requests strategies conflict resolution groups Miki Kashtan
Asking to be Known

There are various ways to be known. Learn how to engage and make clear requests accordingly. This includes getting clear in yourself about what exactly you want known; communicating how important it is to you; sharing examples in your life of being known; requesting and negotiating from the energy of the met need; letting the other person know whether or not the relationship is really...
Making NVC Relevant to a World in Crisis

support this move, beyond a communication template. Here are some examples: Vulnerability, including the willingness to inhabit our needs without knowing if they will ever be met; making requests even when we may hear a "no"; and speaking only from what we know (observations, internal states, and the present moment) all support choice. Embracing all our feelings and bringing tenderness to our...
Choice in the Face of Demands

Do you want to have access to choice when requests or demands come your way? Would you like to free yourself from the submit/rebel dynamic? No one likes demands. Some of the time we respond to perceived demands by saying “Yes” out of fear; and some of the time we respond by saying “No” to perceived demands regardless of the nature of what’s being asked, even if we might want to say “Yes” if...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 6

insights or connection It helps maintain connection during difficult dialogues Once the other person is satisfied you have understood them, then share your observations, feelings, needs, and requests, and ask them if they would be willing to tell you what they have heard you say. Keywords: empathy requests strategies contribution responsibility self responsibility advice understanding trust...
How to Ask for Feedback at Work

How can you ask for feedback without checking your authenticity at the workplace door? Jeff Brown explains that connection requests can help by attending to the quality of your relationship before the content of your request. Keywords: empathy feelings honesty self empathy compassion connection dialogue intention relationships feedback connection requests workplace work Jeff Brown
Honor Your Need to be Heard

to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand. Read this article Keywords: dialogue demand requests connecting requests receptivity LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Working With No To Deepen Self-Connection

Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that...