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Speaking Classical Giraffe

such as expressing feelings and needs without actually using the words "feeling" or "need," and finding natural ways of communicating needs. For example, instead of, "Do you have a need for authenticity?" you might ask, "Do you want others to say what is really in their hearts?" 3. Use the four main ingredients of NVC — observation, feeling, need and request (OFNR) — to remind you where you can...
Core Beliefs and Gratitude Exercise

belief: I need to prove my worth to be valued in community When I tell myself I need to prove my worth, I feel scared, exhausted and discouraged. I’m not sensing my needs for relaxation, joy, authenticity and equality can be met. I feel really sad to think I’ve spent so much of my energy for so many years trying to prove my worth, rather than having a clear connection to my non-negotiable worth....
NVC as Spiritual Practice

giving and receiving.” [This also includes differentiating “self” from other concepts such as ego, soul and Spirit. Self-expression as spiritual practice, honestly revealing the truth, authenticity and vulnerability of what is alive in us, particularly when it feels scariest to do. [An aspect of this is what Marshall Rosenberg refers to as “doing something only if it’s play,” referencing Joseph...
Street NVC

Access this complete 4 session course Are you finding yourself grappling with the NVC model despite your familiarity or practice? Do you often feel stuck or find it challenging to make it feel natural or authentic in your interactions? Dian guides you towards embodying the essence of NVC—a mindset of connection and collaborative engagement. Through her expertise, you'll discover invaluable...
How to Hear Difficult Messages

Trainer Tip For several centuries now, we have overemphasized the intellect. It is fine in its place. It is not, however, the most authentic way of knowing. The most authentic comes from the heart. —Sonia Choquette Have you ever been sitting home reading or watching TV, enjoying your space and peacefulness, when your partner comes home and says something like, “Aren’t the dishes done yet? I am...
The Living Energy of Needs

Have you experienced inauthenticity, confusion and flatness in expressing empathy with others? Do you long to create a more natural quality of energy as you practice empathy? Or are you a trainer looking for guidance to teach workshop participants a more natural flow in their empathy practice? In this interactive, pre-recorded training video and associated exercise, Susan Skye helps you unlearn...
Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap? Namaste, —K.M., California, USA Trainer Answer and Practice Exercise The first step is to recognize when enemy images are present in our minds. Often I find that these images operate at a semi-conscious level,...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 24

How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are...
The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication

We're more likely to sacrifice trust, connection, and relationship quality when (1.) We use NVC to focus on being seen, understood, heard, or meeting our own needs in a way that eclipses our view and understanding of others needs; (2.) We don't clearly examine our intentions; and (3.) We use the NVC form so rigidly that it becomes difficult for others to connect with us authentically. Read this...
Perceiving Reality

Trainer Tip "The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them." —Thomas Merton Often, when we start a new relationship, we twist reality to suit our needs. We like most of the qualities of our new girlfriend, so we pretend that her incessant swearing and burping...