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The Nature of Your Reactions

lead to less blame and more inner peace. Keywords: reactivity reaction reactive jackal thinking jackal talk presence unconditional self acceptance attention awareness self responsibility self connection self acceptance Robert Gonzales
Recognize and Manage Reactivity About Your Cause

When we care about our cause and want to mitigate disaster, we may become reactive. However, transformation comes through connection, rather than convincing, judging, criticising, controlling, and making demands of others. To inspire change, get curious about how they relate to the topic – and get support for yourself elsewhere to process grief, become more present and compassionate, speak...
Create Choiceful Listening

Often, honoring someone’s choice supports more connection. Thus, checking in with someone’s choice to listen or not (offering autonomy) sets the stage for being heard more fully. On the other hand, when someone has the perception that you are talking to them without considering their choice, resentful listening might result. Here are ways to mindfully check in about choiceful listening before...
Parenting Series: Listening for the Needs

Using her own and participants’ examples, Inbal enlightens parents on where they might be struggling with connecting to their children’s needs, especially in situations where the children are responding to the parent’s request. Inbal offers a new definition of interdependence, then explores the variety of feelings and needs that can be present in any given situation between parent and child,...
Needs

Needs: A Foundation of Inner Freedom, Empowerment and Peace The human needs we all share are the foundation of the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process because it is in connecting to needs that we find inner freedom, empowerment and compassion. Unfortunately, many people have negative associations with the word “need" such as needy, weak, selfish, dependent and so on. These associations come...
Secure Differentiation

Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. Are you happier when you are not in an intimate relationship? If so, you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn...
Parenting with Purpose

Roxy Manning discusses the connection between the challenges parents face with their children and the qualities they want them to develop. She highlights the importance of aligning actions with desired outcomes, using the example that if parents value independence, they should encourage choice rather than demanding compliance. She encourages parents to consider the long-term impact of their...
Six Ways to Check If An Allied Intervention Is Welcome

If we are in the dominant group, intervening to prevent violence or an "ouch" is a way to ally with marginalized folks. We can intervene to meet their needs, rather than our own. In other words, we can intervene without putting our experience at center stage. To that end, here are six ways to ask if an intervention is welcome. Read this article Keywords: allyship white savior white centering...
Building Empathic Community in Organizations, Networks, and Personal Lives

In a world facing crisis and deep divides, there's a need for empathic community and connection. Here we reflect upon the importance of empathy, consciousness, and building a sense of community to address complex challenges and promote well-being. Slowing down, engaging in empathic conversations, and committing to a practice of empathy and mindfulness could be essential for personal and...
Honor Your Need to be Heard

When you want to be heard, first check if your listener is available. This honors yourself, and the other person’s choice about listening. You need to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand. Read this...