NVC Resources on Connection
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The Power of Making Requests
fourth component of Nonviolent Communication—making requests—and why it feels like “graduate level” NVC. Asking for what we truly want is vulnerable, yet it’s also a profound gift of honesty and connection in our relationships. With practice, compassion, and creativity, we can build the skills to make requests that deepen trust, foster understanding, and open new possibilities for belonging and...
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How To Interrupt Tragic Cycles That Prevent Collaboration
Interrupt cycles of conflict by creating a new ways forward. You can do this by connecting with the energy of the met needs you want in the dynamic; guessing the other person's needs; naming your needs; asking essential questions; identifying at least three different strategies to meet each need; and imagining the positive outcome. Read on for more. Read this article Keywords: conflict...
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Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal
Trainer Tip I particularly hope to address parents’ yearning for deeper connection with themselves, their partners, and their children, and their desire to contribute, through parenting, to fostering peace in the world. —Inbal Kashtan Parents are often tempted to wield their enormous physical, emotional, and intellectual power in order to coerce their children into doing what they want. This...
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The Value of Just Being
something at someone else’s expense is no longer a victory. I spend much more time connecting than doing. I am productive and I accomplish things, but I do this while meeting my own values for connection and compassion for everyone involved. Connect your goals to your values and you will experience joy. What are your values? If you’re trying to achieve something, how will you know that you’ve...
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It's Hard to Communicate When My Partner Drinks
Miki Kashtan hosted Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with a a woman whose relationship is challenged by what happens when her lover drinks. In this segment, Miki encourages the caller to get support for her stress, find an outlet for it and receive empathy. Miki addresses the challenges of addiction, the self-judgment of trying to...
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I See the Spirit in You
Trainer Tip The heart of him who truly loves is a paradise on earth; he has God in himself, for God is love. —Felicité Robert de Lamennais When we see others as spiritual beings, we connect to their divine energy. I have believed this for years. But for many of those years, I would forget the Spirit in another person if we were in conflict. To know that a person is a spiritual being, but then...
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Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests (OFNR) Communication Components
and unappreciated.”) Feelings relate to our perceptions of the world and the quality of our thinking. Feeling presence in our body and compassionately accepting our feelings creates inner connection and helps us process/integrate emotions. Need vs. Wants/”Strategies” The Need level expands awareness from our separate, individual mind-body experience to oneness with the universal, wholeness and...
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Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost
Trainer Tip What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing. —Oscar Wilde How much is that class worth to you? How about that blouse or new wallet? So many of us decide worth based on outside influences. When we make spending decisions, I suggest we base them on the value we receive from that item or service. I have a massage therapist who comes to my house and...
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Preparing for Difficult Dialogue
Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that. Read this article Keywords:...
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Intimacy With Fear
If we befriend our fear we cannot be paralyzed by it. Every fear that arises is a moment to increase our capacity. Fear is connected to something that is precious to us. We also can see what we do to numb our pain and how we try to avoid it. This knowledge can help us to choose healthier strategies to deal with our fears. Read this article Keywords: Fear Courage Anxiety Presence Eddie Zacapa
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