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Be What You Want in the World

in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler. —Henry David Thoreau It’s simple, really. If you want connection, connect. If you want peace in your life, be peaceful. Don’t wait for the Red Sea to part. Start small. Try to remember to look the cashier in the eye when you thank him. Thank your mail carrier for...
MLK, Nonviolence, and Communication

the desire to cooperate. Through awareness we can translate from thinking and language that triggers our fight-flight-freeze survival system of violence to language that returns us to empathic connection and compassionate action. Thank you Dr. King for the incredible example and inspiration you gave us of this possibility and a path to reach that mountaintop and that dream. Keywords:...
Complex Truth-Telling And Empowered Change

even the biggest storms. And we become more and more aligned with ourselves. Any time of year, but especially at the holidays, we may become acutely aware of our longings for wholeness and connection. We may mourn the disconnections and the chasms between how we see the world and how our family members see the world. And we may feel reignited in our commitment to finding connection across...
Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement

My life is spent traveling between different lands. There is the land of my NVC family. This land is full of people who have abundant hope, who believe change is possible. Some focus on individual change – making their lives and the lives of people in their families and communities better ‐ while others focus on trying to create change in the systems around them. They all believe that change is...
Embracing the Body

your empathy toolbox with emergency self-empathy “hacks” These intermediate level course recordings will be of interest to anyone who wants freedom from consistent triggers and blocks… more self-connection and empathy (including with your body)… better understanding of what your body is telling you… greater insight, self-mastery, choice, and more. (Note: If you are new to NVC, please be familiar...
What’s Important to You?

is most often the first activity in a beginning level workshop after the usual logistics/history/check-in. I experience it as wonderfully alive. It's also an opportunity for people to build connection with one another. It has worked well for a variety of different groups, whatever the age level, history or current life challenges. I usually use a flipchart or a whiteboard. The exercise has four...
Using Integral Concepts to Improve Discernment

Wes Taylor uses Ken Wilber’s work to explain the developmental evolution of consciousness. He then connects Wilber’s stage development concepts to the development of Nonviolent Communication. Keywords: Integral stages consciousness inspiration personal growth integral studies Wes Taylor
Choose Your Words

Communicating with a client or patient with a mental health diagnosis can be tough. This guidebook introduces Nonviolent Communication, helping you develop more clear, compassionate, mutual satisfaction and potentially create conditions that heal those who look to you for help. With this guide learn to notice when your approach is likely to trigger defense and how to shift that to more...
The Needs Underneath a Need for Fairness

To me, whenever anyone uses the language of “fairness” I hear through it concepts of what “should” happen. I am concerned that using this language more likely will lead to separation rather than connection. I tend to believe that, overall, what we long for when we invoke “fairness” is trust that everyone’s needs will matter. Often I imagine that we’re worrying that someone’s needs won’t be...
The Sweetest Game in Town

Ask the Trainer I have always tried to encourage my children in their development through praise of certain behaviors, though I don't believe in praise or criticism of the person. For instance: "I notice you are doing a great job being patient, or generous, etc." Or: "Thank you for being so cooperative and respectful during violin practice. Great work!" What's your perspective on praise?...