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Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action...
How to Make Requests with Confidence

Before you make a request you can connect fully to a time when your need was met. Notice how your request feels and sounds different from this place of aliveness. Excitement about meeting a need implies confidence and trust about moving forward together. Offer an invitation to find strategies that work for both of you. Read this practice exercise Keywords: request demand collaboration LaShelle...
Tips for Bringing NVC to Work

Listen in as Dian shares her tips and sense of urgency around bringing NVC skills to work: 1) How to use your imagination (visualization!) to help you connect with somatic responses and needs; and 2) Five built-in advantages to sharing NVC in the work place. Keywords: Dian Killian workplace business somatic strategies visualization
Healing And Repair After A Triggering Comment

How to get past the sting of a painful comment? Get empathy from self or another. Then connect with the commenter's feelings and needs. The more you can do this the less personally you may take it. Then work together on specific, do-able, authentic agreement about doing something differently next time, the kind that will enable you both to shift out of reactivity. Three things need to be in...
Taking the First Step

is. This type of circular thinking may be a trap that will keep her from meeting her needs. Consider this: Why did she start working on her issues? Possibly to better meet her needs for love and connection. The best way for all of us to meet our needs for love and connection is simply to love and to connect. If we trap ourselves into believing that we must rely on others to provide this for us,...
Liberty and Justice for All?

sings hymns at heaven’s gate; For thy sweet love remembered such wealth brings That then I scorn to change my state with kings.” (sonnet 29) Shakespeare’s “thee” for me is the spirit of empathic connection. I see this spirit awakening and arising in so many people around the world now. But what are we awakening from? The concept of the human Ego has for a long time been unclear and unhelpful to...
Our Afghan Story Revisited

be seen, and many more tragically unmet needs. Through steep challenges translating a multitude of different languages and dialects being spoken, we could tell when empathic communication and connection was happening between us and them. The urgency and intensity of their voices and body language would subside, like the enormous energy of an ocean wave being received by the shore. Their eyes and...
Radical Understanding In A Post-Truth World

and security of unchanging knowing of what is true and right. However, opening myself to being changed could be the key to transforming the energy of conflict into new possibilities for greater connection, creativity, and well-being. I have experienced this happen many times now in my own life. This openness to a person’s different reality and the fear of being changed by deeply listening is...
Enjoying Your Life

Trainer Tip While others may argue about whether the world ends with a bang or a whimper, I just want to make sure mine doesn’t end with a whine. —Barbara Gordon The surest way to enjoy life is to do things that meet our needs. If we don’t enjoy a particular activity, let’s consider the need we hope to meet by doing it. Recently, I had a number of projects with looming deadlines that were...
Speaking the Unspoken Conversation

Access this complete 6 session course Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged. This chatter prevents you from being fully present and available to others, as well as yourself. If you’ve puzzled about how to hear what’s...