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Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

Veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Sylvia Haskvitz, reviews the key distinctions (sometimes referred to as the key differentiations) in Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Listen to this audio to deepen your NVC consciousness and skills through differentiating "giraffe" concepts, themes and habits from "jackal" concepts, themes and habits. This audio is recommended for people new to the NVC process or...
The Freedom of Committing to a Path

In June, 1996, I had an epiphany. In a motel room in Indiana, the night before returning home from a solo camping trip in Michigan and Canada, I discovered how much I had lost in my life because of so fiercely protecting myself. Up until that day, bringing forth my vulnerable self was to be avoided at all costs, which kept me numb much of the time, disconnected from myself and from much of...
The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for...
NVC Mingle

NVC Mingle is a fun group exercise to practice NVC principles and create quick connections with others. Instructions: Ask everyone to walk around the room in a random pattern, with everyone chanting "Mingle, mingle, ming-GULL" (to a Latin rhythm). Blow the whistle, and tell them to form groups of 3's (or 4's, depending on group size). Name a topic (see below) for the group members to share with...
Comparing Ourselves to Others

improve your own looks. Or better still, enjoy her beauty and enjoy what you think is beautiful about yourself. The more you avoid making comparisons, the more likely you are to create greater connections with others. Be aware of the comparisons you make today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: evaluation...
Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

daily life. By embracing the principles of feelings and needs, we pave the way for a deeper understanding of ourselves and those around us. Through this understanding, we can foster harmonious connections, navigate conflicts with grace, and embark on a journey towards a life filled with fulfillment and meaningful relationships. Read this guide Keywords: NVC basics Feelings Needs Universal Human...
Replacing Blame With Compassion For Impact

Blame is a misguided habit used to avoid pain and suffering, offering only a momentary distraction and oversimplifies complex histories. It also disconnects us from choice and agency, blocks us from discovering more about ourselves and others, and can keep us from having compassionate, self responsible conversations. Instead, we can practice speaking in terms of impact and notice our experience...
Choice in the Face of Demands

Do you want to have access to choice when requests or demands come your way? Would you like to free yourself from the submit/rebel dynamic? No one likes demands. Some of the time we respond to perceived demands by saying “Yes” out of fear; and some of the time we respond by saying “No” to perceived demands regardless of the nature of what’s being asked, even if we might want to say “Yes” if...
Love as a Need

Trainer Tip The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed. —J. Krishnamurti In Nonviolent Communication, we consider love to be a need. Remember that needs are universal; everyone has the same ones. We all need love, but the ways in which we express it can be very...
NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

Last year, Mary Mackenzie of the NVC Academy organized an online symposium Removing Our Blinders: Seeing the Impact of Power and Privilege that I consider courageous and visionary. The symposium offered an opportunity for those of European background, men, women, and people of color to share their experiences and for others to empathically listen. The calls struck me as poignant, empathic,...