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Evaluations vs. Feelings

you see as wrong, and expressing your feelings helps the other person know how deeply this issue affects you. In addition, stating true feelings rather than evaluation brings clarity and connection to both the speaker and the other person. Be aware today of times when you are attempting to express a feeling, but you express a thought instead. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's...
Demands vs Requests

mow the lawn that day. Such a demand limits the possibilities and creates distance between people. Making a request that truly values everyone’s needs equally opens possibilities and helps build connection. Be aware of how you feel today when you hear someone’s request as a demand. Can you think of a response other than succumbing or rebelling? This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary...
Life-Alienating Communication

intimacy, and many others. Be aware of times when you are judging others, making comparisons, or denying responsibility for your actions. Notice how these communication patterns affect your connection with other people. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Jackal Judgements Life-alienating Criticism Blame...
Defining Enough

to achieve that goal and do it. Be aware of times when you are judging others, making comparisons, or denying responsibility for your actions. Notice how these communication patterns affect your connection with other people. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Enough Success Goal Achievement Standards Mary...
A Focus on Needs

There are endless ways to meet our needs. Conflict occurs when we argue over strategies, like whether to go dancing or not. When we actively value everyone’s needs, we foster openness and deeper connection in our relationships. Be aware of opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book,...
Communicating Our Deepest Desires

Trainer Tip "In order to create a true connection, honesty is just as important as empathy." —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., Founder Nonviolent Communication If you are not happy in your relationships or in your life, the chances are good that your communication patterns are part of the problem. I have noticed, in fact, that we often try to protect ourselves rather than ask for what we really...
Distinguishing Self-Revealing from Projection

I take responsibility for my feelings by linking them to what I hold dear rather than something outside myself. I make my internal experience transparent to you for the purpose of inviting connection and collaboration. Projection Making visible my thoughts I choose to express an interpretation that makes sense to me. Telling you your inner experience from my perspective, I give you my analysis....
Dialogue with the World at Large

framework that will enable you to positively impact the life of every person you meet (as well as your own life)… Keywords: Miki Kashtan expression feelings honesty needs requests strategies connection dialogue listening relationships collaboration politics law NVC & Society interdependence global warming world crisis
Unconditional Self-Acceptance

your life whenever you are experiencing pain, tension, contraction, lack of fulfillment, or unmet needs or values. Giving your often undesired experiences space can be a path to greater inner connection and peace. Keywords: Robert Gonzales self acceptance contraction unmet needs presence attention awareness self compassion self judgment inner peace unconditional self-acceptance
You Suck At Conflict

People are killing each other because they don’t know how to work it out. Conflict is inevitable because we have different perspectives. Conflict is not bad. It is an opportunity for increased connection, intimacy, joy, and creative win-win solutions. So please, learn to get good at doing conflict. Keywords: conflict avoidant Alan Seid