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Sex Is The Least Private Act

Sure, you can close the bedroom door. But if my sexual connection with my significant other this morning had been a bummer… …I would carry that energy with me all day. It would color every interaction I have. The energy of the most private events of your private life ripples outward and affects everything you do, like the ripples of a rock thrown into a pond. Those of us who want to make a...
Searching Together For A Way Forward

other and then awareness on the third side of the conversation. Awareness holds us in its gentle strength, an ocean of aliveness within and surrounding. With this support I can keep returning to connection, to the space between filled with what we share and need in common, to a searching together for the way forward. Keywords: conflict avoidance shutdown John Kinyon
Nonviolence Is A Process, A Journey

wonder, our social world is still filled with unimaginable, staggering amounts of violence and oppression, on every level. It is the process of nonviolence that takes us to the other side — to connection, cooperation, and new possibilities — if we have the heart to follow it. Keywords: NVC nonviolence Martin Luther King Marshall Rosenberg love empathy conflict John Kinyon
Communicating With People Who Don’t Share Our Values

is the price that life exacts for granting peace. —Amelia Earhart Nonviolent Communication works with everyone, even people who aren’t familiar with the process or don’t share our values for connection and compassion. In fact, compassion automatically blossoms when we stay true to the principles of Nonviolent Communication. We don’t try to convince anyone to do it our way or to value the same...
The Presence Of Hearing Someone Deeply

without judging or bringing up our own life experience. It is a moment in which we offer our presence to another human being to contribute to her life and meet our own needs for contribution and connection. It is priceless, powerful, and healing. It can defuse a violent situation in a few seconds and provide a level of clarity that catapults someone to a deeper level of personal understanding....
A Hunger For Appreciation

responses like this and you do not feel satisfied, simply ask another question: “Really? Can you tell me what I do and what needs it meets that makes me one of your favorite employees?” This connection will be revealing to both of you. Many people don’t stop to consider the underlying reasons why they enjoy someone’s company, or why they enjoy an employee. Taking this time can deepen your...
Being Compassion or Doing Compassion

Compassionate Communication is not a thing to do, or to pull out of our bag of tricks once in a while. Compassionate Communication is a consciousness of valuing everyone’s needs and of valuing connection more than being right, winning or protecting ourselves. It is a way of living. It’s true that sometimes as a result of our old conditioning or our pain, our inner critic may chatter loudly or...
Living Compassion in an Ever-Changing World

Compassion in an Ever-Changing World is the last course that Robert Gonzales offered before his passing in November of 2021. It is an intermediate course whose purpose is to deepen our conscious connection to our own vital life force, to develop skills that support inner healing, and to grow and strengthen daily practices that allow us to truly live life to the fullest. The primary focus of this...
Finding Your Way from Judgment to Discernment

this situation?” or, “What can I contribute here and now?” Judgment is a sort of protection against hopelessness or insecurity, but the cost is high. Judgment costs you your heart— your sense of connection to All That Is. Let judgment be your signal to pause. Check in with fear, grief, or hurt and then ask yourself what universal needs are at stake for you and others in the situation at hand....
Addressing Inequalities in Groups Using NVC

have missed an important opportunity. Using facilitation practices to slow down and discover what was underneath each person’s expression invited in a compassionate stance that nurtured a deeper connection among both participants and the group as a whole. In the Global Majority man’s family, children were taught to be quiet and not take up space — and they usually carried those notions through...