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Understanding Earned Authority and Dissolving Projections

on your experience and what you've learned. This could influence them to project their ideals, fears, hopes, and more onto you. In this case, you can help transform this and contribute to their connection to their own agency, authenticity, and self-trust -- while supporting their ability to learn from what you have to offer. Read this article Keywords: earned authority power under power over...
How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask direct, honest questions. Read this article This article was...
Flow, Decision-Making, And Conflict

indicate incapacity in at least one of five systems that every group, community, or organization needs to function. Attending to conflict at systems-level helps reduce over relying on momentary connection that isn’t anchored in decisions about what comes next. When there's enough agreed upon systems within capacity, that attend to enough kinds of situations, we're likely to have little conflict....
A Positive Relationship With Reactivity

from overtaking and harming: notice signs of reactivity, bring compassion to it, see reactivity as the misperception of threat and a distortion of what's happening, plus engage and pursue connection and the clarity to weaken reactive impulses. In taking responsibility like this overtime, you can live from your values and from care. And life can get easier for you and others around you. Read this...
How To Interrupt Gossip

Reflect on a time when you were either expressing gossip or participating passively. What feelings and needs were up for you at the time? How might you have interrupted the gossip with connection? When interrupting gossip it can take a few rounds of empathy and honest expression to bridge understanding, and create a space in which mutual care and curiosity arises. Read on for an example. Read...
Understanding Arguments Against NVC

use ‘NVC language’ others may think the issue is NVC rather than the person’s capacity. This week, notice even a small instance where someone is against something you suggest. To build trust and connection, experiment with offering empathy or asking them to share what they think, feel, or need. Read this practice exercise Keywords: NVC living NVC applying NVC learning NVC sharing NVC conflict...
Boundaries

those who respect boundaries and those who often don't. Second, review situations in which you lost track of your choice. And rehearse what it would sound, look, and feel like if you kept connection to your choice. Third, seek validation of your experience - from a grounded and mindful (non-reactive) state. Read this article Keywords: saying no boundaries submission power choice respect LaShelle...
Starting a Practice

and making life more wonderful? Even if you are a hard grader, you have developed a lot of skills in your life. What if you could use the skills you already have to create more skillful connection with yourself and in your interactions with others? Watch this 40min session, with Jim and Jori Manske and take the next step in your skill development. Create your own new personal practice using the...
Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

name overwhelm as it comes. Apply self-compassion. Be suspicious of your impulse to withdraw. Find ways to meet your needs. Tell others about your overwhelm. This may allow more support, connection and trust-building. Plan what to do to meet your needs next time you're overwhelmed. Tweak your plan. Read this practice exercise Keywords: overwhelm reactivity LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Five Communication Guidelines For Change Agents

social change issues it helps to communicate with compassion, clarity, curiosity, calm, and respect while seeking to understand their needs. This way there’s a better chance for more trust and connection that’s crucial for a win-win strategy to come about. This may take several conversations. Read this article Keywords: social change activism communication decision maker negotiation Alan Seid