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Six Ways That Support You Being Heard

and create connection. Let's look at six ways that will support you in being heard. These are clarity about the topic and needs; supportive conditions; respect for autonomy; sharing your intention; attending to emotional security; and making clear requests. Read this practice exercise Keywords: being heard request LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Don't Assume You Know What Other People Need

Trainer Tip We must be aware of the real problems of the world. Then, with mindfulness, we will know what to do and what not to do to be of help. —Thich Nhat Hanh We must listen deeply to people in an effort to understand what they need. Don’t assume you know what another person’s problem is or what they need. Learn by listening deeply. Have you ever listened to someone and noticed yourself...
How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

While someone is upset or hurt they may "listen" to us to gather evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask...
Patterns That Perpetuate Conflict - Part 1 of 2

To resolve conflict, information of what's important to each party, plus corrections, needs to be included and built upon. Here we explore nine patterns of ongoing conflict, including diagnosis; assuming understanding; refuting; unhelpful communication mediums; over focus on intent over effect; and “hit-and-run” engagement. This is part one of a two part series. Read this article Keywords:...
Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

Whether privileged or not, its not easy to see the humanity of others in different social locations, especially if their actions have unwanted impacts and have left behind our humanity. Aiming for “both sides hearing each other” empathically, and to focus on effect rather than intent when we have more privilege, may theoretically lead to liberation. Yet, in practice it can reinforce rather than...