How to Use NVC with Talkative Friends

Making The Evolutionary Leap

swirl through the internet, facilitating people to polarize against one another. So notice when you're caught in a polarizing story; try shifting focus to observing your mind; somatic presence; underlying commonality; consciousness as universal need, energy, and spaciousness; and the natural compassion and generosity that flow from this. It’s the end of August 2020 in the time of the Covid-19...

Myths Of Power With

quite confident that we cannot; at least not under present conditions in the world in which so many have been so starved for being heard, for their basic human dignity to be recognized, for their presence to matter, that they either cannot participate in a collaborative manner, or cannot tolerate others’ difficulties in collaborating. So what do we do? I’ve been pondering these questions for...

Connect Before Correct

and "should" be shifting by now; or 2) If you want to step in and give them something without having really heard what's going on for them. My understanding of empathy is: Open-hearted curiosity Presence Desire to contribute and to connect My sense is that most of us will come up with our own best strategy for what to do next when given the space and time for empathy. Most often there is a shift...

Past Stories, Present Feelings

these types of situations, what I call "tainted empathy" occurs and the receiver does not get the healing and relief they would like because the empathy being sent is not coming from a place of presence but a place of wanting this to be over with already. About your question, "Any advice on how I can translate the past pain in present feelings, needs and requests?" When you think about your...

Different Types of Requests

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, I have heard of different types of requests from listening to various trainers, such as requests for connection, for presence, for action, for clarity, for information and so on. I am finding this list of requests helpful in connecting my needs to the actions that might meet them. Could you share a list of requests, with examples of each, and a possible strategy...

Colloquial NVC Options

the list of needs, and especially feelings, to suit the cultural norms of the environment in which we are operating. Certain feelings words may invite others to a level of vulnerability, or presence with our own vulnerability, which is beyond what they are willing to experience in that context even if they would be open to it in another context. E.g. in many work settings it would work better...

Giraffe Fighting

This class is about finding a place between pushing for what you want and giving up on what you want. With the tips and coaching you can get from Miki, and with enough commitment and presence, disagreements can become an opportunity for using the skills you already have to hold your own, care about the other and find peaceful resolutions. Keywords: expression feelings honesty needs requests...

The Spiritual Path of NVC

discuss how NVC may be used as a spiritual practice to bolster profound spiritual transformation and intense self-acceptance and self-compassion. {attachment:all} Keywords consciousness needs presence compassion personal growth spirituality authenticity vulnerability Leo Sofer Robert Gonzales

Feast for the Soul

we've made ourselves vulnerable. From the depths of internal winter to the melting open in the warm sunshine of spring to rest in the ocean of Spirit, this poetry is a journey of discovering deep Presence through the human experiences so many of us share. These words will carry you through the discomfort of constriction and suffering and guide the opening of the heart and soul to healing and new...