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Tips for the Road Series Tip 10

instead of support to simply be with your emotions, feel them, reclaim them as part of your wholeness, and uncover the needs to which they point. Lately, I have been working with reclaiming anger and rage. These are difficult emotions for me to reclaim as I have many implicit memories that associate anger and rage with danger and loss of safety and love. On top of that, though I have several...
Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Trainer Tip The only way to master love, is to practice love. —Don Miguel Ruiz Sometimes it is hard to remember, but every time someone speaks or acts in anger or frustration, he is saying "Please!" Consider the please when your child says, "We NEVER get to do what I want to do!" The child is saying, "Please, I want fairness and fun. I want to know that you care about my needs, too." How about...
Mourning Unmet Needs (The Art of Letting Go)

"Hold on to your anger and use it as compost for your garden." - Thich Nhat Hanh Recently I was feeling very angry and resentful. I felt this way for a couple days. I have learned that when I judge others it only contributes to anger and resentment. Despite knowing this, I kept judging this particular person. By doing this I only added more drama to the story I was creating in my mind. I...
Our Afghan Story Revisited

Afghan tribal elders in a refugee camp along the border. It was January 2002, soon after the 9/11 terrorist attacks in the U.S. and our bombings and invasion of Afghanistan. It was a particularly dangerous time for Americans to go to that part of the world, yet for reasons I can only understand in hindsight we went despite the very strong warnings being put out by the U.S. State Department. This...
Embracing Your Emotions

complete 3 session course In his poem, "The Guest House," Rumi invites us to welcome all of our emotions as "guides from beyond." This short 3 session course, discover how to honor the wisdom that anger, fear, shame, depression and other BIG emotions have for you. This class is all about emotional literacy, emotional intelligence and understanding your emotions for the messengers they are....
Anatomy of a Trigger

on the other person. Read this article {attachment:all} Keywords: trigger blame reactivity fighting disrespect demand self talk interpretation assumptions shifting assumptions changing assumptions anger argument judgement self connection yelling resentment responsibility frustratiom unmet needs thoughts jackal thinking stimulus stimulus vs cause fault attached upset certainty self inquiry self...
How to Express Feelings

it is to us. It lets them know how we feel: for instance, mildly annoyed, angry, or deeply hurt. Perhaps you think people will know this simply from your tone of voice, but feelings of hurt, anger, fear, and resentment can often sound alike. Fear and excitement have the same physiological effects on us, and are often expressed in the same body language. It is our responsibility to express...
Grief and Mourning for the World

As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...
Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

Is it dangerous for large numbers of people to be absorbing disturbing news alone? Given the intensity of our times, making choices based on conscious awareness and discernment in relation to current events is essential for our ability to stay engaged, and to also wisely meet our collective challenges with agency and power. Here are five tips for how to help stay sane in relation to the news...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 7

nervous system is in fight/flight or freeze and cortisol and adrenaline are coursing through the brain and body. The amygdala—an almond-sized part of the brain that sounds the alarm when there is danger or conflict—is “taking over” the energy of the brain. This is a good thing if our physical safety is threatened because we want to have as much energy as possible to protect ourselves or escape...