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Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

illusion about our limitations. If only everyone paid attention fully, if only everyone took responsibility, if only … then there would be no unwelcome outcomes. From here it becomes so easy to blame – others or ourselves as the case may be. The Alternative With the help of others on the call, I found an alternative to my habitual response. I saw that I could open up for real, not just in...
Apologizing in NVC Language

Identify the need you were trying to meet Craft a statement that represents what you’d like to say to the other person Jim offers a tip as well: One way to express what is in your heart without blame is to start with a connecting request. Listen to this audio and learn more about how to apologize using the NVC process. Keywords: expression honesty blame connection healing judgment relationships...
Moving Beyond Needs as Met or Unmet

Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to resist a request made from this stance. Instead, here are practices to increasingly losen any remaining attachment or demand energy -- and open our...
Sitting With Not Knowing

Sitting with not knowing is an NVC skill because its the opposite of reactivity. In our haste to find relief from the discomfort of not knowing, we often become defensive, jump to conclusions, and blame and criticize others. Sitting with not knowing requires us to suspend our distrust, tolerate fear and uncertainty - creating space within us. NVC provides a way forward to enter into a space of...
The Paradox Of Why

So often we're habituated to associate a “why” question with being reproached, blamed or shamed – and so defensiveness arises. However, in order to maintain a flow of understanding and collaboration, we need to hear and say the “why” while finding other ways to ask for it. Here we look at how to ask questions that bring each of us vital information that can open up discovery and learning, for...
Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

vs. Cause Love as a Need vs. Love as a Feeling Requests vs. Demands Appreciation vs. Praise Keywords: consciousness demands feelings observation protective use of force requests strategies blame judgment teaching NVC power Sylvia Haskvitz
Cause of Feelings

Sylvia Haskvitz uses a personal example to illustrate the cause of our feelings. Many of us habitually blame other people for our feelings but our own state of needs is the true cause. In this powerful audio, Sylvia teaches you how to manage your emotions in challenging situations and demonstrates the process of Screaming in Giraffe. The goal is to develop new habits that better serve your life...
Expressing Anger Peacefully

couples, parents, family members, and coworkers wanting practical tools to respond to anger peacefully and healthfully {attachment:all} Keywords: exercises/practices feelings needs anger blame judgment peace expression Raj Gill
Courageous Living Towards the World We Want

at their core of even the most destructive of acts Who should use this resource? Social change activists Nonviolent peace activists Community leaders and advocates Keywords: consciousness presence blame compassion connection judgment leadership social change groups peace renewal and vitality community interdependence belonging activism activist Miki Kashtan
Judging and Feeling Judged

needs. In this process, Miki distinguishes between needs and strategies to reveal abundant choices for supporting your life. Keywords: empathy honesty needs presence requests self empathy anger blame connection judgment self compassion families relationships Miki Kashtan