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You Suck At Conflict

Rather than too much conflict, an even greater problem in the world is the widespread avoidance of conflict. We’re just not good at conflict. So we avoid it, which in many cases creates more conflict. Underneath our conflict-avoidant compulsion is usually a universal need for harmony, along with needs for ease and conservation of energy. Understandable. We also avoid it because we don’t trust...
The Illusion of Conflicting Needs

This exercise will help you resolve situations in which you have two needs which seem to be in conflict with each other, transforming inner conflict into peace. Click the arrows above the slide to navigate through the course. Keywords: Illusion of Conflicting Needs self empowerment self connection inner peace inner work personal growth needs strategies strategy inner conflict inner confusion...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 7

Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those of us who grew up with punitive, adversarial, or avoidant approaches to conflict. When conflict ignites, it can be...
Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others

Access this complete 8 session course This course recording provides an experience with the language, skills and consciousness of NVC applied to mediating all types of conflict whether you are one of the people in conflict or you are supporting others in conflict, including: personal and family relationships business/organizational community The training involves three integral dimensions: a...
Using Conflict to Reflect on Fulfilling My Needs

Trainer Tip When I have conflict in my life with someone, especially recurring conflict, I like to find out what the conflict is showing me about myself. One way I do this is by finding my deepest need in regards to the conflict and then asking myself a question: What am I doing or not doing in my life that is not fulfilling this need? What I often find is that I am not fulfilling or attending...
Change Your Response to Conflict and Change Your Life

Access this complete 4 session course Maybe you… have challenging people in your life. are on the verge of a big decision or are avoiding a difficult conversation. feel trapped by recurring anger or pain that makes you do or say things you later regret. When you Mediate Your Life, you become more effective in everything you do. You find that you can handle any sort of conflict, including the...
Open-Hearted Disagreement

Miki demonstrates how to work with judgmental thinking, offering a two-step process to shift from right/wrong thinking about our disagreements to a more open-hearted state of being. Keywords: consciousness needs intention judgment social change power fear awareness Miki Kashtan
Getting Stuck Arguments Unstuck

Some arguments stay stuck because each person thinks it's about the content of the argument, rather than the needs each person is attempting to protect. When the needs get attached to the strategies a "no way out" scenario gets created. Instead, fully step into one another's worlds and connect to the feelings and needs behind the strategy each party is putting forth. Read on for six elements to...
Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

Trainer Tip We have to understand in order to be of help. We all have pain, but we tend to suppress it because we don’t want it to come up to our living room. The most important thing is that we need to be understood. We need someone to be able to listen to us and to understand us. Then, we will suffer less. —Thich Nhat Hanh Have you ever noticed how often we back up when we find ourselves in a...
Connecting in Conflict and the Art of Navigating Dialogue

Access this complete 5 session course In this 5-session series, explore: the power of empathy to change the trajectory of heated conversations embracing the internal conflicts of the different parts of ourselves how to approach differing views peacefully the use of NVC to help let go of judgments how to confidently ask for what you want Life is often bursting with irritations. On a day-to-day...