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Serenity is a Choice

Trainer Tip Our faith must be alive, always growing, like a tree. —Thich Nhat Hanh Serenity is a state of being and a universal need that is peaceful, tranquil, and clear. We can be serene even in a catastrophe, or when life is challenging, or when we are scared, hurt, angry, or sad. This happens when we are able to connect to what we value most, and to act in harmony with those values. In...
What to do When Racial Oppression and Privilege Collide

For over 10 years I ran a retreat to bring together members of the Global Majority* and white people. The intention was to help people from both groups learn ways they could show up and come together to combat racism. In one session, my co-trainer - a Latino man - shared a story about his experience of the police when he was a teenager. He and his brother had been stopped while driving home....
Addressing Inequalities in Groups Using NVC

Near the end of a two-day workshop I facilitated, a white man who had not spoken within the group yet shared that he often finds it difficult to speak up in group settings. A transgender man from the Global Majority* - who had spoken up frequently over the two days - reacted with pronounced irritation. In that moment, the Global Majority man heard the messages from his past being reinforced....
You Are Not Responsible for Other People's Feelings

Trainer Tip No one can make you feel inferior without your consent —Eleanor Roosevelt How many times have we heard this? It may sound trite, but it’s true! Everyone’s feelings are a result of their own met or unmet needs. It’s important that we take responsibility for our actions and acknowledge that our behaviors are sometimes a stimulus for other people’s pain. It is equally important that we...
When Someone Doesn’t Appreciate Our Honesty

Trainer Tip Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom. —Thomas Jefferson Not everyone will receive your honesty with joy. If they seem unhappy, this is an indication that they have unmet needs, not that you have made them unhappy. Remember that feelings are a result of met or unmet needs; a situation is only the stimulus of feelings, not the cause. When someone doesn’t appreciate your...
Empowering Kids Under Current Systems of Domination

Join Aya Caspi as she delves into the difficult topic of parenting, childhood trauma, and social status. She discusses the generational impact of being labeled by society as "less than" or subservient. The wounds of childhood trauma can be healed so they no longer are a means of control by a dominant culture. Childhood trauma has a significant impact on a person. Often a person feels inferior...
Becoming Allies for Our Kids

Aya Caspi, looks at the stories we tell ourselves about human nature. Human nature is built around these stories and passed from one generation to the next. Beginning in childhood we are trained to take our place within the construct of this story. The cycle has no beginning or end. Education and socialization influence human behavior, leading to theories of human nature we tell ourselves...
Working Together for Change

Access this complete 5 session course This course is designed to help you step into your power and create a more just world while staying aligned with compassion and empathy. Using practices and insights based in Nonviolent Communication, this five-session series explores how to challenge racist words and ideas in ways that are most likely to encourage others to openly reflect on their beliefs...
Finding Common Ground in Challenging Times

Access this complete 4 session course Discover how to transform your life by aligning your actions with what matters most to you. David's 4-session course offers you practical, learnable skills that are crucial in today's world—skills like managing your moods, making decisive and values-driven choices, and building stronger relationships through grounded compassion. With a combination of...
Sexual Expression

In Mindful Compassionate Dialogue, discerning the difference between a universal need and a strategy to meet that need can mean the difference between staying stuck or getting unstuck in a conflict. Let's look at a simple example. If you believe your need for peace is the same as time alone, you can only meet your need for peace if you get alone time. Getting regular alone time is a popular...