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What To Do When They Never Want to Talk About It

When someone doesn't want to talk some options include releasing your attachment to the strategy you want, asking about and affirming with empathy their reasons for not talking, looking for what support could be helpful to shift to more openness, letting go, and grieving. Read on for more on this, including possible reasons for why they might not want to engage on it. Read this article...
Connected Parenting: Making Observations

In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, explores observation in contrast to interpretation, and leads an exercise in observation skills. This recording is an excerpt from Inbal's audio CD, Connected Parenting: Nonviolent Communication in Family Life. Keywords: interpretation exercises/practices observation connection judgment...
Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of...
The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how...
Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors, typical signs of escalation, and more. Read this article Keywords: boundaries reactivity escalation conflict...
Expressing and Receiving No in NVC Consciousness

How we deal with “no” is a litmus test of our state of consciousness around power. It is how we see if we are truly making a request or a demand, both in how we respond to someone when we don’t receive a “yes” from them or when we don’t have a “yes” to give someone else. Listen as John works with participants' real life situations, demonstrating how to give and receive a "no" from a...
Expanding The Circle Of Care

Who are you not use to caring about? Is it those you classify as "other"? Those you disagree with? The lower class? People in power? Those who inflict harm? Yourself? To include everyone's needs fully, not instead of your needs, can transform the either/or paradigm. It can also help us to go beyond so-called "codependency". And it can support us all to live more sustainably on this planet. Read...
My Teen Daughter Dislikes NVC

In this brief audio segment, Miki works with a woman whose teenage daughter rejects her use of NVC, guiding her in a process of self-awareness and acceptance. Miki helps her see that it's not only about the words we use, but more about being real and staying true to our intention to connect. Keywords: consciousness honesty needs connection intention families Family Conflict family communication...
Groups Tip Series: Working with Frequent Interruptions

How can I deal with someone who is constantly interrupting and derailing our process? Keywords: conflict resolution groups collaboration Group Facilitation Tips interrupting facilitation facilitator sharing NVC teaching NVC teaching NVC groups disrupting Miki Kashtan
Applying NVC to Social Change Movements

This is the Working for Transformation without Recreating the Past preview with Miki Kashtan. Want things to change in your community, but feel frustrated or don’t know what to do? Miki’s intriguing overview of how to apply the principles of NVC to social change movements may have the exact blend of inspiration and ideas you’re seeking! Keywords: expression honesty strategies connection...