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Reactions To Conflict Exercises

With these exercises you can practice identifying the reactions to conflict, such as fight, flight, freeze, the posture taken, what you see, hear, smell, touch taste and what needs are at play. They will also bring in curiosity about what next step may help. One of these exercises prompts you to journal some of these things this week. Read this practice exercise Keywords: conflict reactivity...
Consciousness, NVC, and Navigating Inner and Outer Conflicts

Listen to John talk about the inner and outer mediation process, the importance of the "3rd chair," and an experience of working with Pakistani elders. Keywords: consciousness demands empathy feelings jackal show presence self empathy compassion conflict resolution mediation relationships jackal talk self connection authenticity vulnerability enemy images intensity triggers John Kinyon
Emergency Interventions for Escalating Arguments

Mid-conversation you may find yourself sliding into defending, shutting down, attacking, or blaming. Here's a list of possible emergency interventions that can help slow down escalation and return you to connection. Read this article Keywords: argument intervention deescalate reconnect connecting request reactivity LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Understanding Arguments Against NVC

Even those who practice NVC can repeat old patterns of thinking, believing, feeling, and behaving. If they do, but still use ‘NVC language’ others may think the issue is NVC rather than the person’s capacity. This week, notice even a small instance where someone is against something you suggest. To build trust and connection, experiment with offering empathy or asking them to share what they...
Mediating Conflict with Kids

In this brief, yet stimulating audio recording, Stephanie Mattei covers several "hot" parenting topics such as: boundary issues, strategy resilience, how to shift your right/wrong mentality and understanding the concept of fairness in your parenting role. While unraveling these topics, Stephanie intersperses some practical neuroscience around brain regulation, interactive regulation and...
My Group is in Conflict, I Want It to Stop

Miki Kashtan hosted Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with a caller who outlines a conflict between two people who are crucial to the cohesiveness of a dance troupe and asks, “What do you do when you see a conflict between two people in a group, when you are not directly involved?” Miki starts by acknowledging the challenge of...
Two Basics That Support Conflict Resolution

Connecting, with yourself and with the other person, is foundational to care and creativity. Before dialogue connect with your intention and needs for being with grief, fear or pain, and empathy. Dialogue when you're both rested, fed, and have the spaciousness. Start with expressing care and a desire to find mutually satisfying solutions. To deepen connection you might repeat what you hear and...
NVC Life Hacks 5

Conflict occurs when disagreements undermine the sense of trust and safety in family, workplace, or community. Shantigarbha shares nine tips for addressing, and even transforming conflict. Keywords: partnership tips relationships presence conflict resolution conflict Shantigarbha Warren
Every Angry Message is a "Please"

Trainer Tip The only way to master love, is to practice love. —Don Miguel Ruiz Sometimes it is hard to remember, but every time someone speaks or acts in anger or frustration, he is saying "Please!" Consider the please when your child says, "We NEVER get to do what I want to do!" The child is saying, "Please, I want fairness and fun. I want to know that you care about my needs, too." How about...
Giraffe Fighting

Access this complete 2 session course Do you find yourself giving in with growing resentment? Do you rebel or get angry as a way to take your needs seriously? Do you avoid conflict and explode later without apparent reason? Listen to this two-session course recording to re-imagine and fine tune your skills at dealing with disagreements and negotiations. This class is about finding a place...