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Life-Alienating Communication

by preoccupying herself with moralistic judgments. She categorizes others as good or bad, right or wrong. She makes comparisons, denies responsibility for her actions and choices, or makes demands of others, threatening them with blame or punishment if they fail to comply. Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., who developed the Nonviolent Communication process, calls these speech patterns tragic,...
Four D's of Disconnection

connection. 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language. Keywords: integrating NVC diagnosis deserve denial demands needs Mary Mackenzie Marshall Rosenberg
Taking 100% Responsibility for Every Relationship

self love self responsibility self worth vision politics collaboration workplace relationships leadership values self compassion listening dialogue strategies needs honesty expression empowerment demands demand blame victimhood dissatisfaction first session free Miki Kashtan
When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

Trainer Tip Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. —George Bernard Shaw, Irish Playwright When I first discovered that I had needs, I talked about them to anyone who would listen. I was so filled with grief over spending the first 40 years of my life unaware of them that I started a personal mission to be conscious of them and to...
Hearing Challenging Comments and Stretching into Love

When feeling unworthy, powerless, or afraid, we can hear others' comments as criticism, rejection, demands, limits, or attacks. Practice self-compassion, release attachments, and ask “How can I stretch the boundaries of who I believe myself to be, in service of love?”. Try replacing love with a word that inspires you (e.g. freedom, thriving, etc). Note answers that arise later. Or explore the...
The Key to Getting Your Needs Met

Clear, actionable requests are vital for fulfilling needs and maintaining relationships. In NVC, a true request differs from a demand by honoring both parties’ needs equally. Effective requests are specific, present, positive, and doable, and using them strengthens connection, prevents resentment, and promotes mutual understanding. Here are three key skills to making effective requests and...
Emotionally Exhausted? Try Empathy

Living in this ceaselessly demanding world, how do we recover from emotional exhaustion? The hopelessness of not being met in the world can leave us wrung out like an old mop. It takes us into the unmyelinated slow lane of experience, and our heart rate plummets, our blood pressure and respiration drop, and energy and information processing start slogging along. Instead, we can build the bridge...
Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

giraffe Giraffe honesty vs. Jackal honesty Idiomatic vs. Classical giraffe Observation vs. Observation mixed with evaluation Stimulus vs. Cause Love as a Need vs. Love as a Feeling Requests vs. Demands Appreciation vs. Praise Keywords: consciousness demands feelings observation protective use of force requests strategies blame judgment teaching NVC power Sylvia Haskvitz
Embracing Jackal Thoughts

whether certain words are a thought or not, but rather what is the consciousness from which these words arise. My guess is that we focus as much as we do on thoughts of negative judgments, blame, demands, etc. because such thoughts more often than not contribute to separation and fear rather than to connection and trust. Still, even a thought such as "It's a beautiful day" could contribute to...
Foundational NVC Skills

offers an easy-to-digest overview of how carefully crafted requests inspire joyful relationships. Specifically, this telecourse recording explores the following aspects of requests: Requests vs. demands – saying “yes” only if it’s play Using present and positive action language Compassionate giving and receiving – acting from the enjoyment of meeting needs, contributing to well-being and...