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Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

Trainer Tip He who can not forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself. —George Herbert Any time we enter a conversation harboring ill will or judgment about the other person, we are part of the problem. How can we truly connect with another if we simultaneously think he is bad, wrong, or evil? It is important to remember that all actions are attempts to meet needs. People...
Understanding Judgement And Criticism

Judging or criticizing others indicates pain, unmet needs and a coping strategy. It distracts you from yourself and can give you the illusion of control. You may think you see more than they do, imagining criticism will bring change. But even a correct analysis won’t inspire change if they hear criticism. Instead, the moment you notice judgments or criticism turn towards yourself with...
Losing Our Judgments

Trainer Tip Do not consider painful what is good for you. — Euripides Have you ever noticed how one minute something can seem so utterly painful you’re sure it must be bad, then, a short time later, the most amazing results happen, so then you think it’s good? This has happened to me countless times. Consider the time my car died when my finances were at an all-time low. That was bad, I...
Observing without Judgment

Trainer Tip "Keep your eye on the sunshine and you will not see the shadows." —Helen Keller You’re in a store and you see someone you haven’t seen in a while. She walks past you without saying anything. You think, “What a snob” or “She doesn’t like me.” Later you find out that she didn’t recognize you, or that she was in a hurry to get her mother’s medication at the pharmacy. On another day,...
Saying Thank You without Judgment

Trainer Tip "With every choice you make, be conscious of what need it serves." —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. In Compassionate Communication, we believe that everything a person says or does is either a “please” or a “thank you.” In our culture, saying “thank you” usually involves an expression of appreciation in the form of a judgment or evaluation. Remember, judgments and evaluations can...
Judgment and Radical Compassion

A theory of judgment is that it is how we make sense of life and quickly assess what is safe or not safe. However, this has somehow been translated into right/wrong thinking. In this video, Aya explores different kinds of judgments and examples of each. Keywords: Aya Caspi deserve comparison threat fear trust blame guilt morale shame
Without Judgment or Blame

Carl Munson interviews Bridget Belgrave after attending an NVC and Dance Floors workshop with Bridget. Carl shares his reaction to the term “Nonviolent Communication.” Bridget shares how she deals with people’s reaction to the term Nonviolent Communication by focusing on an exploration of needs, offering information on how the term was chosen and the practical nature of the process the term...
The Compass - Taking Responsibility in the Face of Guilt and Judgment

The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself. Not only does this process enable you to heal the wearying, unending struggle between you and yourself, it also helps you get "unstuck" so you can...
Navigating Parenthood with Compassion and Realistic Expectations

In parenting, Roxy Manning notes the tendency for self-judgment and external judgment. Roxy suggests that being a single parent or a working parent influences your ability to implement parenting strategies. The importance of assessing the feasibility of strategies in one's current life context is emphasized. Roxy encourages self-compassion and mourning the gap between desired and achievable...
The Heart of the Matter

Do you want to increase your capacity to identify and connect with feelings and needs? Would you like to enhance your ability to translate judgments? Join Miki for this deep dive into feelings and needs. In this course recording, you’ll learn skills and practices to: Identify your basic feeling “flavor” and increase your fluency with feeling words Recognize the needs hidden within hard-to-hear...