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Radical Understanding In A Post-Truth World

The Coronavirus pandemic is bringing to light aspects of society that were already increasingly showing signs of dysfunction and unhealth but now are more visible. One of these is how we as a society relate to truth. Through the marvel of the internet we have access to virtually unlimited amounts of information and opinions presented from a myriad of sources. There are those of us who believe...
Developing Discernment

Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices. Discernment Exercise: Using the "Four Choices" for Self-Empathy Once each day, write down a message you found difficult to hear... Imagine receiving the message and then internally responding with each of these choices: 1. Judgmental...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 24

How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are...
Past Stories, Present Feelings

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, I think I have heard Marshall Rosenberg emphasize that going back to past stories does not help. I have noticed that sometimes when I am in a story telling mood I am usually trying to prove that I am right and that once I connect with a need, the urge to give all the information goes away. However, this is not all that simple. I have a professional relationship...
Mediating with a Group

Trainer Tip "I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving." —Goethe When you mediate a group conflict, the principles of listening for needs are the same as with one-on-one conflicts. Start the mediation by telling everyone that the group will not begin looking at strategies until everyone’s needs have been heard. Dedicate the first...
Keep It Real, Warts and All

Sometimes our craving for love, acceptance, and approval leads us to show only parts of ourselves and hide others. This lack of authenticity actually breeds disconnection and mistrust, leading to those very needs not being met. What judgments are you afraid other people might have of you, such that you hide a part of yourself? Make a list. Any chance these align with judgments you have of...
Living the Fullness of Life

Access this complete 9 session course Living the Fullness of Life Program will help you: Gain skills for living in compassion every possible moment of your life Increase your ability to access your natural state of joy Transform your judgments by connecting to the inherent life within Expand your ability to embody the NVC consciousness Three key areas of focus in Robert’s work that he shares in...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 7

Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those of us who grew up with punitive, adversarial, or avoidant approaches to conflict. When conflict ignites, it can be...
What is Nonviolent Communication?

Trainer Tip I saw my Lord with the eye of my heart, and I said: Who art Thou? He said: Thou. —Al-Hallaj "Nonviolent Communication (sometimes known as Compassionate Communication) is a way of interacting that facilitates the flow of communication needed to resolve differences peacefully. It focuses on shared human values and needs, and encourages the use of language that increases good will, and...
Setting Intentions with Attention

Kristin Masters explores how to approach goal-setting and self-reflection with compassion and mindfulness grounded in NVC principles. Kristin encourages you to examine how conscious choice plays a role in how we treat ourselves and others. By shifting away from judgment and self-criticism, and instead embracing the NVC practice of meeting our intentions with empathy, we can foster deeper...