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Acknowleding that the Needs are the Same!

Have you ever found yourself passing judgment on a co-worker's seemingly disorganized desk? Mary Mackenzie's experience sheds light on the fact that she and her colleague with the "messy desk" shared a common need for order. Recognizing that our needs align can lead to a softening of judgments, creating space for connection, understanding, and harmony. Keywords: Mary Mackenzie needs connection...
Open-Hearted Disagreement

Miki demonstrates how to work with judgmental thinking, offering a two-step process to shift from right/wrong thinking about our disagreements to a more open-hearted state of being. Keywords: consciousness needs intention judgment social change power fear awareness Miki Kashtan
From Self-Connection to Self-Expression

Yoram Mosenzon discusses judgmental dialogue and its hidden aim to meet needs. This often creates distance instead of fostering connection. Yoram introduces a self-connection exercise to improve the chances of dialogue becoming more enriching and life-serving. Keywords: exercises/practices judgment self connection criticism jackal show jackal thinking self expression Yoram Mosenzon
Enemy Images

Trainer Tip Sometimes a slight difference in where we stand can dramatically change how we see things. —Melody Beattie Do you harbor negative thoughts about others? Do these negative feelings affect your ability to enjoy those relationships or communicate effectively? When you foster resentment or anger toward other people, your focus is on your perceptions of the other person’s foibles. Your...
The Communication Difference

Yoram Mosenzon shares an exercise and demo to explore the process of identifying observations and using judgments (jackals) to find the needs. Keywords: Yoram Mosenzon classical NVC exercises/practices jackal show observation judgment empathy guess needs
Expressing Appreciation In A Life-Serving Way

Trainer Tip The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose. —Hada Bejar “You are such a good girl.” “You are great.” “You did a good job on that project.” These statements are an attempt to express appreciation, but they convey that the speaker is in a position to judge the other person. This may sound extreme, but whenever we judge someone, we demonstrate that we sit in judgment. A...
How to Enjoy Your Family Dinner

If you dread family gatherings because of family tensions, you can find ways to excavate through piles of hardened judgments and hopelessness, build on your inner strength, and engage with family conflicts with open-hearted curiosity, greater presence, and connecting with what really matters to everyone. You can transform old conflicts and "compost" new ones as they arise to prevent future...
Confronting with Care

People find confrontation inspirational when done with full compassion and intention to support. To do this, transform your own judgments or distress, come with useful content plus spot-on timing, and the best interests of the receiver in mind. Read on for questions you can ask yourself in preparation for this, and more. Read this article Keywords: judgment feedback nagging conflict...
Modeling Our Values With Our Children

As parents, aligning our values with our actual behavior can be challenging. In this video, Roxy discusses the importance of modeling behavior for children, both in how they handle challenges and in their overall approach to life. Her message encourages using real-life examples to show that everyone is a work in progress and that it's okay not to be perfect. Keywords: Roxanne Manning Roxy...
How Our Behavior Impacts Our Children

Children interpret and create meaning from everything they observe. They form a narrative about themselves and their place in the world. Roxy Manning shares how the stories of parents contribute to this narrative. Roxy shares a personal story where she, in an attempt to highlight her son's intellectual gifts, unintentionally influenced him to believe he couldn't do things on his own and wasn't...