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Courageous Living Towards the World We Want

Miki leverages her extensive work with nonviolent social change activism, including ongoing work with the U.S. Department of Peace Campaign, to explore the use of NVC as a tool for effective social transformation. Individuals, activists, advocates and community leaders will be empowered with critical discoveries to re-ground themselves in their vision of the change they’d like to see. Using an...
Embodying the Consciousness of NVC

Access this complete 6 session course Explore how you can embody the consciousness of NVC and live every moment of every day in the fullness of compassion - for yourself and others. This course recording includes specific teachings from Robert with time for practicing the principles he covers, as well as processes that you may take into your daily life for deepening your learning. In this...
Bridge the Gap

Access this complete 4 session course Using the gentle lens of NVC, Selene will guide you in supportive exploration, bringing understanding, clarity and relief to troubled relationships with your grown children. Whether the issues are estrangement, lack of trust, conflict, dependence, miscommunication or any other challenge that impacts you with your grown sons and daughters, your heart will...
9 Skills for Navigating Conflict

Access this complete 8 session course Do you long for more reliable access to NVC when you need it the most? When conflict erupts, NVC skills can sometimes seem so far away. When you feel separate, enflamed with uncomfortable emotions and judgment, NVC can seem like the farthest thing from your mind. During those times it can be all too easy just to react when what you may really want to do is...
You’re Not Too Much

Trainer Tip Listen to your own Self. If you listen to that Self within, then you find the Truth. —Kabir I used to feel guilty if I had a need that somebody else didn’t have. I told myself that if I wanted intimacy and my partner didn’t, then there must be something wrong with me. Or, if I wanted fun and my partner wanted to rest, then I was too much, too needy, or too selfish. It did not occur...
Changing Our Habitual Approach to Change

Most of us subject ourselves to so many painful mental jabs that those jabs seldom stimulate helpful change. We can be like a frustrated animal trainer repeatedly whipping an animal, without ever helping the animal to understand what behavior is wanted or offering encouragement. Instead, punishing thoughts can be stepping stones to awareness. We can focus on sensing what we're really aspiring...
Exercise In Self Compassion

With this exercise you'll choose an experience you had with someone where your needs were not met. You'll work with the related feelings, judgements, values, and feeling the fullness of the need even though it was not met, plus any sadness that may arise. Read this practice exercise Keywords: self compassion disappointment mourning unmet needs loss Robert Gonzalez
Integrating Our Relationship To Gratitude And Mourning

Integrating a full living involves grief/mourning and gratitude. Here we'll more deeply integrate inner and outer dimensions of gratitude and grief. In any experience there's the outer aspect, an event that occurs in life. And there's the inner response to the outer event. When we judge the outer positively or negatively we're in tension or resistance to our experience. Here we'll explore a...
NVC Flow

This single-page handout illustrates the steps to translating habitual judgments and actions into observations, feelings, needs, and requests (OFNR). See this handout Keywords: Handout flowchart illustration OFNR habit choice learning tool Peggy Smith
It's Hard to Communicate When My Partner Drinks

Miki Kashtan hosted Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with a a woman whose relationship is challenged by what happens when her lover drinks. In this segment, Miki encourages the caller to get support for her stress, find an outlet for it and receive empathy. Miki addresses the challenges of addiction, the self-judgment of trying to...