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Peace Starts At Home

Access this complete 6 session course “I will do everything in my power to resolve every conflict, however small.” – Thich Nhat Hanh, from the 4th precept as printed in For a Future to Be Possible When asked how we can create peace, the Dalai Lama suggested that we start at home. Through the practice of living in dialogue at home, where the stakes are often very high, you can increase your...
Financial Freedom and Integrity

Access this complete 8 session course “We went from food stamps to financial independence in 8 years two decades ago! We continue to learn and integrate many skills for nurturing all aspects of well-being including personal and spiritual values, work, family and play. We now spend our lives doing work we love and supporting others in creating the lives they want for themselves. We are eager to...
Experience More Joy and Success at Work

A recent study showed that the number one thing great bosses all had in common was their ability to understand and care about their employees and team members. Join us as six senior trainers discuss how you can bring NVC techniques into your workplace successfully. Our lineup includes: Dian Killian, who has coached companies like Merck on collaborative communication and helped them increase...
NVC as a Strategy

Trainer Tip I care not so much what I am in the opinion of others as what I am in my own; I would be rich of myself, and not by borrowing. —Michel Eyquem de Montaigne Human needs are universal and strategies are specific. Well, Compassionate Communication is a process, but also a strategy. The needs I try to meet by living and teaching this process are harmony, peace, fun, love, safety, joy,...
Knowing Ourselves

Trainer Tip You may find the worst enemy or best friend within yourself. —English proverb The question is not what other people think of you, but what you think of yourself. Who are you, really? Often, we don’t take the time to consider what we value. We think we know, yet our behaviors are often contrary to our values. We long to be heard, so we yell louder. If we thought it through, however,...
Connecting Feelings and Needs

Trainer Tip You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. —Eleanor Roosevelt How are you feeling right now? Do you feel happy? If so, then your needs in this moment are met. If you feel sad, tired, angry, hurt, or disappointed, they are not. Take a minute to check in with yourself. Do you need love, support, reassurance, hope,...
The Difference Between Needs and Requests

Trainer Tip When our needs are not being fulfilled, we follow the expression of what we are observing, feeling, and needing with a specific request: we ask for actions that might fulfill our needs. —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. In Nonviolent Communication, we see needs as universal. That means that everyone has the same needs for love, support, connection, resources, food, shelter, etc. A...
Living Abundantly

Trainer Tip Sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast. —Lewis Carroll How many times in a day do we stop ourselves from asking for what we want because we are sure it is impossible? Think about times when you wanted something but were afraid to ask for it. Maybe you wanted a friendship to evolve into a partnership, or you were sick and wanted someone to bring you...
Persisting vs. Demanding

Trainer Tip The art of love . . . is largely the art of persistence. —Albert Ellis Persisting is the active attempt to meet our needs by continuing to connect with another. Demanding is the insistence that someone do something to avoid negative repercussions. Let’s imagine that you want to go on vacation with a friend. She says she doesn’t have enough money. A demand would sound something like...
Improving Relationships as a Primary Goal

Trainer Tip I am not easily frightened. Not because I am brave but because I know that I am dealing with human beings, and that I must try as hard as I can to understand everything that anyone ever does. —Etty Hillesum, Holocaust victim Compassionate Communication suggests that improving the quality of our relationships is a primary goal. Indeed, that connection with ourselves and other people...