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When We Need Empathy the Most

Trainer Tip She was so bankrupt, she couldn’t even afford a negative thought. —Sheryl Jai Is your emotional bank account low, or maybe even empty? I try to keep my emotional bank account balanced. That is, I try not to give more than I receive, because if I’m bankrupt, I have little to give anyone, and I am more likely to say and do things I regret. This doesn’t mean a quid pro quo in...
Directness

Trainer Tip The abstinent run away from what they desire, but carry their desires with them. —Bhagavadgita Isn’t it kinder to be indirect? Do I have to tell the whole truth? Yep, I say that direct honesty is the only answer. Indirectness can easily cause confusion and pain as people try to figure out what we mean. Such communication can prolong the inevitable pain and even deepen it. I think...
NVC Life Hacks 12

The "inner jackal" is probably be better known as the "inner critic", that nagging voice of self-sabotage that undermines our confidence. It's a voice that won't go away in a hurry! So here are our four top tips for getting into positive communication with it. Keywords: inner critic self criticism presence trainer tips Shantigarbha Warren
Share Impact for Liberation (Part 2)

If we are to transform the existing social order, and shift to a mode of liberation for all, we'll need to look at our own participation in it. This includes how much we are able to focus on keeping our hearts open; speak to impact without attributing intention; and retain a humility that includes our systemic context. Read on for "how to" when we are in a position of less power. Read this...
Healing and Reconciliation

Access this complete 7 session course Witness facilitating conflict between individuals and members of a group, where you’ll learn four immensely helpful and practical processes. These have been designed to dramatically augment your ability to respond effectively to and facilitate difficult situations – enabling you, the mediator, to ease suffering and create peaceful, fair solutions you can...
Fear and Trust Facing the Year Ahead

At the boundary between 2021 and 2022, looking out over the future landscape of the coming year, I see conflict, violence and suffering growing and spreading in the world, And I also see, at the heart of the dissolution, a tremendous light getting brighter and brighter, brilliant and beautiful. Sharing with a dear friend and mentor about my relationship with fear and doubt, he asks, “What do...
Inspired By Meeting A Greek God

Sometimes life provides inspiring moments that are better than what I could come up with in my fantasy. For example, several years ago I landed, together with my then-wife on Crete, to start our one-week vacation. As it had been agreed beforehand, there was somebody waiting for us in the arrival hall, with our names on a piece of paper, to hand us the car we rented for that week. And, it was...
Resistance

I deeply believe that humanity’s path out of this time of growing crisis is to not only support a new way of being but to also resist the current social-political-economic system that is killing us and life on the planet. The way I see to resist, however, is with empathy and care. As I understand it, this system has been growing for a very long time as it has spread throughout the world in many...
Perceiving Reality

Trainer Tip "The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them." —Thomas Merton Often, when we start a new relationship, we twist reality to suit our needs. We like most of the qualities of our new girlfriend, so we pretend that her incessant swearing and burping...
NVC as Spiritual Practice

Access this complete 4 session course This 4 session course recording offers practices while exploring the relationship between the core elements of NVC and universal spiritual principles. A primary template for the class is using the four NVC components of Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request to support meditative presence and awareness, in conjunction with four universal spiritual...