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Giraffe Mourning

Often making an apology is not enough because people want greater depth of understanding and empathy. Instead of judging ourselves or feeling guilt we can "mourn" what we did that stirred up pain in others. This can bring about a sweet pain that leads to change. Then we can ask ourselves what we can do next time and make a commitment to do this and/or offer a regrets to the person expressing...
The Why And How Of Accessing Grief

Grief is often confused with anguish. Anguish is a painful feeling that comes along with deep resistance to an experience or the truth. Grief that leads to healing is an expansive state. It is a willingness to be with an experience and truth. If you're not resisting grief, then it's a neutral-to-pleasant experience. Pleasant sensations can include a sense of space and relief as something is...
NVC Life Hacks 6

Mourning is not just a process that happens after someone dies: it's an experience we go through with loss of any kind. Here, Shantigarbha offers us seven tips for working with mourning and healing. Keywords: presence relationships tips mourning loss grief death healing Shantigarbha Warren
Dealing with Loss

When faced with someone’s grief for the world, how do you engage with them in a way that is informed? In this session, Kristin suggests exploring what they might be grieving… what they’re afraid of losing… and what it is that they love. Keywords: loss grief mourning connection sadness support empathy mourning inner work healing suffering judgment Kristin Masters
Tips for the Road Series Tip 17

Author and psychotherapist Francis Weller believes that we each carry a heavy load of grief. In his interview in the Oct. 2105 issue of The Sun (The Geography of Sorrow) he explains that through most of human history grieving was communal. There were songs and rituals to support people to grieve and let the energy of grief move through. Without communal rituals or some kind of support for...
Dealing with Loss

Access this complete 3 session course This gentle, healing telecourse recording will assist you in unearthing feelings and issues that have become tangled up with loss, enabling you to face whatever is blocking your grief. Gain an understanding of your relationship to grief Recognize and free yourself from your judgmental mind Change guilt and shame into life-serving empathy Distinguish between...
Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

I know I am done working my way through something when I get to a place of feeling grateful for it. That’s when I know that I have assimilated the events, and am open to life again. Sometimes it takes years (some things I may not finish while alive, I am quite sure of that), and sometimes it takes only moments. This morning I went from acute helplessness to gratitude in less than an hour, and I...
Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

What have you lost this year during this COVID-19 pandemic? Are you grieving too? Recognition of loss can helped contextualize our emotions. When we can meet grief with understanding, patience and tenderness, when we create space to mourn our losses -- and to begin to process, heal and metabolize loss. This can help us make sense of change and orient to a new reality. Grief is a longing for...
Life Force and the Spirituality of Human Needs

Access this complete 6 session course This thought-provoking course will introduce you to The Land of Living Compassion. It’s designed to connect you more fully to your vital Life Force: the deep river of needs and values that flows through your innermost being. “There is a basic life current or impulse resonating in and through us as a yearning of the heart, this current and yearning manifests...
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

Think of a stimulus -- something you did that triggers you to not think kindly of yourself. A time you made a "mistake." Write down what you said or did. Recall what you said to yourself or what you guessed you said to yourself when you made the “mistake.” Write down as much as you can remember. Mourn (Distinguish between mourning vs. blaming. Mourning is full attention focused on needs. It...