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Giraffe Consciousness

consequences of our actions. It’s about being fully present to our actions and words, knowing that each action creates a reaction. When we consciously choose to respond to life with compassion, peace, and harmony, we meet our own needs for these positive qualities. Be aware of your own or other people’s actions that demonstrate a giraffe consciousness to you. This trainer tip is an excerpt from...
Love Trumps Everything

Trainer Tip "Look forward to the power of love replacing the love of power. Then we will know peace." —William Gladstone You’d really like the dishes to be done right after dinner, so you try to force your teenage son to do them each night. Or, maybe you’d like your employees to arrive at work promptly at eight in the morning, so you create punishments if they don’t comply. You think you have...
I Want To Connect More Than I Want To Be Right

simply connected with her feelings and needs, the conversation would have gone entirely differently. “Oh, so you want to learn to do this, but you’re scared that it will be hard?” I don’t feel at peace when I am trying to be right. Deeply connecting instead helps me open the possibility that everyone’s needs will be met. Consider making your goal connection rather than winning. I think you’ll be...
Serenity As A Consciousness

Trainer Tip I am at peace with the community of life. —Louise L. Hay Serenity doesn’t mean that everything in our lives is smooth. It means that no matter what is happening, we have faith in a higher purpose. Serenity is a choice. I used to experience emotional highs and lows. Then one day, a friend said to me: “You know, I don’t get it. You say that you have a full spiritual life, yet you hit...
Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal

Tip I particularly hope to address parents’ yearning for deeper connection with themselves, their partners, and their children, and their desire to contribute, through parenting, to fostering peace in the world. —Inbal Kashtan Parents are often tempted to wield their enormous physical, emotional, and intellectual power in order to coerce their children into doing what they want. This strategy...
Empathy For Children

Trainer Tip I believe that only genuine mutual understanding can sustain peace . . . —Lucy Leu The empathy process in Nonviolent Communication involves listening for the feelings and needs of another person. We can do this with children as well as adults. Say your child is not eating his dinner. You can choose to understand what is going on with him rather than try to change his behavior. He...
When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

I don’t regret the initial stages of learning these concepts or making my charged requests because they contributed to my eventual success. It can be challenging to shift our paradigms, but the peace we experience afterward is well worth the effort. Today, pay attention to how you express your needs. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from...
Denying Our Needs

could breathe fully again. We all have needs. We all have feelings. It doesn’t serve anyone to hide ourselves or deny our needs. The world isn’t a better place if we’re unhappy. The best hope for peace is for every person to notice what they need and to work actively to meet their needs. This alone will dramatically diminish the frustration, anger, judgments, and violence in our world. Today,...
Expressing Big Emotions Compassionately

Trainer Tip Until he extends his circle of compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace. —Albert Schweitzer Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we become extremely frustrated, angry, or exasperated. It happens to all of us from time to time. The difference for me now is that I express my intense feelings by owning them. This is called screaming in giraffe. In the...
NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

additions) which, I hope, will further open up discussion around a topic that I consider vital to the full expression of NVC, which I see as ultimately focused on power-sharing, collaboration, peace-making, and holding all needs with care. Read this article {attachment:all} Keywords: power privilege Privilege blindness questioning NVC questioning NVC culture questioning the status quo power over...