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and how to shift that to more authenticity, understanding and trust. Read this ebook Keywords: healthcare neurodivergence authenticity understanding defensive mental health OFNR empathy blame responsibility Melanie Sears
Identify 12 Essential Aspects of Empathy

3. Empathy is a form of responsiveness that depends on an internal sense of spaciousness and equanimity. 4. Empathy requires you to stay centered and self-connected. You are not taking responsibility for the other person’s feelings and needs. 5. Empathy often requires the ability to be comfortable with uncomfortable emotions and witness the suffering of others without trying to get them out of...
Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

human interaction. I don’t think I am alone in this. In fact, I imagine us all to have a collective illusion about our limitations. If only everyone paid attention fully, if only everyone took responsibility, if only … then there would be no unwelcome outcomes. From here it becomes so easy to blame – others or ourselves as the case may be. The Alternative With the help of others on the call, I...
Making Demands

Trainer Tip "To practice nonviolence, first of all we must learn to deal peacefully with ourselves" —Thich Nhat Hanh When we ask something of a person and there will be negative repercussions if she doesn’t comply with our wish, we are actually making a demand. When we do this, she has only two possible responses: to rebel or to submit. Hard to believe? Consider what happens when you tell your...
Living with the Power of Gratitude

Session 1 Session 2 Hema Pokharna shares how truly becoming a healing influence in this world, requires we each be powerful in a balanced, spiritually mature and responsible way. To a large extent, we need to develop our own healthy way of being powerful. One concrete method we can develop is an "attitude of gratitude," a life-affirming process that brings greater awareness of the wonder and...
Authority Vs. Power Over / Power Under

In a "power with" consciousness you're aware of, and responsible for, your needs and values while considering and hearing others needs. Whereas regarding someone with earned authority, you trust her capacity and discernment is based on her experience and expertise. Read on for signs of when you are slipping into power under, power over, or power with, and how that fits with earned authority....
How to Balance Differentiation and Bonding

Thriving relationships have both differentiation and bonding. When that happens, you can authentically express differences and unmet needs, and responsibly do your own thing without it being a threat to the bond with another. You honor each others choices. There's trust rather than a sense of resentful obligation, needs-based negotiation is easier. Notice signs of not enough differentiation or...
Transforming Painful Patterns

the past, such as focusing on what we or others should have done Negative thoughts about the future, conjuring up worst case scenarios Thinking about things that are beyond our control or responsibility, such as the emotional state of our partner or the war in Iran Judging others Judging ourselves Eight Behavior Patterns Outbursts of Anger Arguing Withdrawal Denial Paralysis / freeze Avoidance...
Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

We aim to transform our habit of making "right" and "wrong" assessments (moralistic judgments), and to focus instead on whether or not human needs appear met (need-based assessments). Choice, Responsibility, Peace Taking responsibility for our feelings: We aim to connect our feelings to our own needs, recognizing that others do not have the power to make us feel anything. This recognition...
Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Two of the most supportive things parents can do for their children are healing their own attachment trauma (thereby further developing their own neural pathways for emotional regulation and secure attachment) and reclaiming disowned parts. The more that parents do these two things, the wider their windows of tolerance will be for big emotions, intense experiences, and difficult situations, and...