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W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

With these practices make space before reacting to emotion or external stimulus. This can enable your capacity to respond from your self-connection to universally shared values. With practice you can create the capacity to temporarily put impulsiveness aside, in the service of connection with yourself and others, and in service of more informed and effective strategies. Read this practice...
The Tao of Empathy

John introduces his Self-Connection Exercise as a mindful way of coming to awareness via OFNR. Breath: immediately observable, a reminder to observe. Body: feeling the body, awareness of sensations. Needs: an experience of wholeness that expands awareness of the totality of experience. Listen. Keywords: John Kinyon empathy tao OFNR NVC basics NVC fundamentals exercises/practices exercises self...
What Does It Mean To Be Heard Deeply And How Can You Ask For It?

There are five aspects helpful to consider when creating conditions and atmosphere where you can be heard deeply and hear others deeply: context, self-connection, autonomy, security, and specific requests. Read on for more, and reflect on moments when you have been heard deeply and name everything that contributed to that experience. Read this article Keywords: being heard request dialogue...
The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

but does not lose its power. Often I see that such needs “run” us without our awareness. When someone works to open their heart to their own needs, they experience more spaciousness, self-connection and a sense of choice. This is at the core of why we may become unconscious of certain needs: if we have shame about a need, we are less likely to want to experience it, and then we hide it from...
Mourning Our Disappointments

Trainer Tip Mourning in Nonviolent Communication is the process of fully connecting with the unmet needs and feelings that are generated when we have been less than perfect. —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. We mourn when we acknowledge the feelings and unmet needs associated with regret without any sense of guilt or shame. When we do this, we can see how our behavior has negatively affected our...
The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC

on connection, trust and everyone's needs mattering? Would you love to learn ways to ground your responses to in-the-moment triggers in your deeper parenting values? Do you want to deepen self-connection and balance your own needs with your child's more compassionately? Each session recording includes a teaching piece on a parenting theme, as well as Q&A and role plays around real-life parenting...
What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

they might be feeling seems intrusive and scary for them? Any ideas would be welcome. Trainer Answer In response to your request for advice, you could try some silent empathy as well as some self-connection. First self-connection, acknowledging to yourself how you feel when you see the reaction of the people you referenced (perhaps confused, frustrated?) because what needs of yours are not met...
Hidden Needs

about stability. Then you do the same, rest in opening your heart to your own need for stability, stay there until it settles, and then ask again. You stop when you are satisfied with your self-connection. Two Dimensions in Anger or Frustration The second approach is to understand that whatever you get angry or frustrated about often has two dimensions to it. One is the specific outcome or...
How to Interrupt

Regardless of whether we choose to interrupt first with honesty or empathy, we can do the dance between the two as the conversation proceeds, always remembering that we can return to self-connection (a.k.a. self-empathy) whenever it stops being fun to connect with the other person. This way we can recharge our batteries, which supports us to continue in the dialogue. Warmly, Jeff Brown Keywords:...
Everyday Parenting Challenges

parenting style, they build lifelong relationships with their children upon a foundation of trust and connection. Ingrid points out that there are three options for parents in any dialogue: Self-connection / self-empathy — connecting with the parent’s deep underlying needs Empathy for the other person/child — holding both the child and parent’s needs as precious Honest Expression — Using the...