NVC Resources on Shame
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Motivation Through Joy
I was filled with rage. Either I succumbed to others’ expectations or I rebelled against them. But I spent little time trying to notice what I liked, loved, and wanted. I was motivated by guilt, shame, and worry. Then at the age of twenty-five, I had a dream to own and run a horse farm. I decided to go to college to pursue it. I wasn’t certain I could succeed; I had been raised in the city and I...
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Social Dynamics During the Holidays
During the holiday season we may find ourselves taking responsibility for other's feelings, which can lead to guilt, shame, depression, and resentment. These feelings are exacerbated by the habitual pattern we call the "Vortex of Submission" (being hooked by a sense of duty and obligation). Read on for ways to recognize and break the pattern. Read This Tip Keywords: submission duty obligation...
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Finding Worthiness and Belonging
Worthlessness and shame are linked to the idea of not belonging or being unworthy of belonging -- that is, a deep sense of belonging to life, to your sense of self, and to our earth. Compensatory strategies to win worthiness and belonging arise from here and effectively block the very thing it is pursuing. Transformation occurs when there is a critical mass of clarity about the harm of a...
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Tips for the Road Series Tip 11
into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain. It is thrilling to follow our dreams and share our authenticity, creativity, and inspiration. But it is also risky because the parts of our psyches that want to keep us small (sometimes...
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Courage
me and the people who knew him is the courage he had for authentically being his caring, playful, jokester, artist self. Carl Rogers, the founder of humanistic psychology, said, “What we are most ashamed of is often what is most common.” We’re wired to tell our stories, and even though our mother culture teaches us not to reveal our imperfections, this is where we can deeply connect. Common...
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Wanting Fully without Attachment
Do you want to befriend your needs and live without shame about them? Would you like to increase your inner freedom by letting go of attachment to outcome? Many of us equate letting go of attachment with giving up on wanting. This telecourse recording explores a path to full aliveness and inner freedom that invites you to the paradox of allowing yourself to want what you want without the...
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Speaking the Unspoken Conversation
If you’ve puzzled about how to hear what’s really going on and are weary of that noisy inner talk – and If you’d love to learn how to successfully handle feelings of fear, anger, guilt and shame – then open the door to the wisdom, hope and healing you’ll receive in this unique course. In Speaking the Unspoken Conversation, Arnina will help you tap into the vulnerability you've feared. You’ll...
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Dealing with Loss
up with loss, enabling you to face whatever is blocking your grief. Gain an understanding of your relationship to grief Recognize and free yourself from your judgmental mind Change guilt and shame into life-serving empathy Distinguish between pain caused by suffering and the beauty of mourning. Hope is on the horizon! Keywords: consciousness empathy mourning needs self empathy strategies...
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Empowering Ourselves Through Our Choices
Trainer Tip The best way out is always through. —Robert Frost Every time we do something because we think we have to, or because we think we should, we are motivating ourselves through guilt and shame. How does it feel to do this? It can feel overwhelming and restricting. Sometimes, it can actually feel like there’s a heavy weight on our chest. Try a new way— discard the words “I have to” and...
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NVC Life Hacks 31
Whenever we make mistakes, we're often beating ourself up in a way that breeds guilt, fear and/or shame. Nonviolent Communication offers a model based in self-empathy that lets you reflect, process and move forward without the guilt, fear and shame. {attachment:all} Keywords: Trainer Tip Shantigarbha Warren self empathy self compassion mistakes
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