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Developing Patience

during each day when you can try out this process. C. Daily preparation for Patience: Upon awakening in the morning, consider your intentions for the day...what needs are important to you? What strategies are you contemplating to meet those needs? (To connect with strategies, it can be helpful to savor the needs.) You can also recall the challenges of yesterday...what would you like to do...
Working with a Difficult Counseling Situation

professionals alike will find powerful takeaways from this real-world dialogue. In this dialogue, the practitioners explore the following challenges: How to avoid pushing diagnosis, advice or strategies onto the patient when we’re fearful for their immediate physical well being Weighing the internal conflict between a desire to protect life, and your value for healing to be choiceful How to...
Distinguishing Freedom from Submission / Rebellion

to stimulus My awareness is on the power held or applied by others, and my actions are responses to how that power manifests. In the face of influence, I protect myself and others through strategies of obedience or defiance. Wanting my choices to influence the outcome in a manner favorable to me, I enact the strategies most familiar and readily available. This guide is meant to fine-tune and...
Conflict Resolution

trip? How about extending the length of the trip so there is time for the train ride and ample time at the vacation spot? When we look at our conflicts from the perspective of needs rather than strategies, we open the possibility for creative resolution that meets everyone’s needs. Be aware of opportunities to shift the focus from strategies to needs today to resolve a conflict. This trainer tip...
Being Persistent About Getting Our Needs Met

to put things down and leave them there. Their arguments usually involve the husband accusing the wife of being lazy and uncaring, and the wife accusing the husband of being rigid. The only two strategies that they can come up with are either the husband picks up for both of them or the wife tries to pick up for herself. But she usually doesn’t stick with it for long and the argument starts...
Navigating Parenthood with Compassion and Realistic Expectations

In parenting, Roxy Manning notes the tendency for self-judgment and external judgment. Roxy suggests that being a single parent or a working parent influences your ability to implement parenting strategies. The importance of assessing the feasibility of strategies in one's current life context is emphasized. Roxy encourages self-compassion and mourning the gap between desired and achievable...
Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests (OFNR) Communication Components

world and the quality of our thinking. Feeling presence in our body and compassionately accepting our feelings creates inner connection and helps us process/integrate emotions. Need vs. Wants/”Strategies” The Need level expands awareness from our separate, individual mind-body experience to oneness with the universal, wholeness and interconnectedness of life. Needs are what all humans...
Judging and Feeling Judged

looking at each judgment until she can reveal the true hidden gem – her needs – and then creating a positive request to support those needs. In this process, Miki distinguishes between needs and strategies to reveal abundant choices for supporting your life. Keywords: empathy honesty needs presence requests self empathy anger blame connection judgment self compassion families relationships Miki...
Parenting Series: The Importance of Self-Empathy

Inbal offers parents and anyone with children in their life a lucid discussion of the important role self-empathy plays in creating healthy, supportive relationships. Are the strategies you're using right now supporting your goals for the relationships you want with your children? In this introduction to the NVC principle of self-empathy, Inbal uses an interactive dialogue and simple...
The Cause of Our Feelings

and into unconditioned present awareness where I can experience observations, feelings, needs, and requests less influenced, or not influenced, by thoughts. In this way I believe thoughts are strategies to meet our needs, but needs themselves are created by and an expression of the Life Force within that creates all things. In other words, I believe needs are primary to thinking and transcend...