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The Jackal as a Teacher

The more you ignore your jackal, the louder and fiercer it howls! Your jackal truly cares about your well-being. Hear it, empathize with it, learn its intentions, and create more satisfying strategies to meet your needs. This journey is filled with self-care, love, nurturing, and healing for you. Pay attention to what your inner jackal has to teach you today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from...
3 Choices Singles Can Make to Avoid Heartbreaking Relationships

healing your relationship with yourself Understand how your early childhood relationship with your parents effects how you show up in relationships Uncover and transform the ineffective coping strategies you use to keep yourself safe, loved and accepted in relationships Receive suggestions for how to stop repeating your unsatisfying relationship patterns Eric uses his passion for helping singles...
Communicating with Children

to make thoughtful decisions about his life. Instead, in both words and actions, parents can convey two key ideas: 1. Everyone’s needs matter, and 2. If we connect sufficiently, we can find strategies that will work for everyone." —Inbal Kashtan The empathy process of hearing another’s feelings and needs works beautifully with children of all ages. Once I had two young boys, ages 6 and 3,...
Connection, Connection, Connection

connect!” And ask, “Am I likely to be successful if I say what is on the tip of my tongue?” Invariably, the answer is no. By simply grounding yourself with these questions and considering other strategies you could use to meet your needs, you will be more able to empathize with the other, and to express your feelings compassionately. As a result, you will enjoy deeper, more meaningful...
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

both needs are in mind, learning can happen. How could (not “should”) I have gotten both needs met? Needs are not in conflict, though I may not be creative enough in this moment to come up with strategies to meet all needs. I don't know how to yet (rather than "can't"). Speed up learning by keeping a jackal book: You can note stimulus/situation, need(s) unmet, good reasons for doing it, then...
Dialogue with the World at Large

A simple framework that will enable you to positively impact the life of every person you meet (as well as your own life)… Keywords: Miki Kashtan expression feelings honesty needs requests strategies connection dialogue listening relationships collaboration politics law NVC & Society interdependence global warming world crisis
Shooting For The Moon

by stopping when one particular strategy doesn’t work. Focus again on your need and try another way. Identify one need that you would like to experience more of and make a list of at least five strategies for meeting it today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: strategy creativity flexibility abundance Mary...
Living Peacefully, Starting With Our Physical Selves

to feed my body nurturing food. I am certain that I choose food that doesn’t nurture my system because of my needs for safety, predictability, and relief. To meet those needs, I am creating new strategies that are more in harmony with my values of integrity, nurturing, and love. Some of these are to limit my sugar and carbohydrate intake and significantly increase the quantity of vegetables I...
Naturalizing NVC Language

needs using just one word. The focus of this session is naming needs that are specific to the context at hand while still maintaining their general nature and clearly distinguishing needs from strategies. This allows our language to sound more fluid and familiar to others. Session 4: Removing NVC “Jargon” from Your Speech Have you noticed how some people develop an aversion to certain phrases...
Meeting Our Need For Exercise

has been well met. In my younger days, it was fun to work my body hard and to feel powerful because of what I could accomplish. Today, much less activity feels good to me. We all have different strategies and different degrees of endurance for exercise or movement. When I have focused on working out in ways that experts suggest, I have felt overwhelmed and had a hard time sticking to the...