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Needs-Based Negotiation

Needs-based negotiation is based on the view that when quality connection is established, creative generosity of heart and collaboration becomes accessible. Then strategies honoring everyone’s needs are easier. This requires us to trust connection, hear needs, brainstorm, experiment, prepare, and a confidence that everyone’s needs can be met. What derails this? A sense of urgency, listening...
10 Ways To Identify Your Needs

requires specific tasks and practices. Here's a list of 10 learning tasks and practices for you to choose from. Some of these ideas include using needs cards and lists, working backwards from strategies and ideal scenarios, reflecting on past experiences and relationships, and asking for/offering/exchanging empathy. Read this practice exercise Keywords: needs LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Repair: Responding To A Lack Of Empathy

When someone stimulates your pain, you may want them to express care and empathy for your experience. If they're unwilling, you may resent it. You may forget the power of many strategies to meet a need, and you lose your agency. This can lead to reactive habits in you -- such as pleading, demanding, or attacking. Here are reasons you may not be getting an apology or empathy, and what options...
Changing A One-Way Caretaking Relationship

thinking around the support you offer. Is there a sense that if you don't carry out a particular action something bad will happen? If so, identify the needs at hand and brainstorm a variety of strategies to meet them. Read This Practice Exercise Keywords: enmeshment caretaking obligation submission codependence LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
How To Make A Relationship A Priority While Maintaining Autonomy

losing yourself, practice writing down your needs and guessing their needs, beforehand. Make an upfront request to create a shared understanding about what’s most important, before discussing strategies or decisions. Read this practice exercise Keywords: priority relationship conflict decision autonomy negotiation LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Developing a Needs Consciousness

three simple, practical tips to help you cultivate needs consciousness and transform how you experience your world and relationships. From hourly check-ins to reflecting on your day, these strategies will help you build the habit of focusing on needs rather than judgments. If you're ready to take your NVC practice to the next level, this video is for you! Keywords: Mary Mackenzie judgments needs...