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Learning the Practice of Being in Empathy

a basic understanding of Nonviolent Communication who want to deepen their ability for empathic presence. Empathy is a learned skill and a beautiful process that helps people build connection and trust. Imagine being present with your whole being to perceive and relate to another person’s feelings and needs with no desire to blame, give advice or fix the situation. Empathy can also be described...
The Vortex of Submission

the understanding and tools for: making choices in harmony with your values balancing autonomy and interdependence healing resentments sustaining healthy relationships nurturing connection and trust in all types of relationships Keywords: consciousness exercises/practices presence blame compassion connection dialogue gratitude healing personal growth conflict resolution relationships honest...
Colloquial NVC Options

is beyond what they are willing to experience in that context even if they would be open to it in another context. E.g. in many work settings it would work better and likely contribute to more trust to say: “Are you concerned about John leaving the office?” instead of saying: “Are you scared about John leaving the office?” Increasing flow with requests language by having additional phrases aside...
Move in to Conflict - Don't Back Up!

you would be backing away. To move in sometimes takes courage and often takes a clear desire for connection. In this instance, you could move in by saying, “Are you annoyed because you’d like to trust me when I say I’ll meet you at a specific time?” It’s a simple process, really, but the rewards can be increased intimacy, joy, understanding, connection and deeper relationships. When we back...
Peace Starts At Home

100%responsibility for the relationship b. Navigating conversations to everyone's benefit c. Knowing when to move into specific strategies and solutions 5. Creating Relationship Agreements: a. Trust building strategies i. Agreed regularly scheduled activities (e.g. mutual appreciation) II. Agreements about how to handle conflict III. Talking about things outside conflict moments b. Becoming each...
Every Angry Message is a "Please"

the front door, "Where have you been? I've been waiting for you for an HOUR!" Perhaps underneath this statement, she is saying, "Would you please consider my needs for predictability, respect, and trust?" Okay, maybe these are too obvious. What is the "please" behind your boss's statement? "This presentation was deplorable. The computer didn't operate properly, the graphics were juvenile, and...
What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

your own experience, you may have the resource then to empathize silently with the other and wonder compassionately about their experience. (Are they feeling angry? or scared? because they need trust? or protection?) It also sounds to me as though you would like perhaps to contribute to these people? Since empathy is a response of caring and is not about the words we use, silent compassion can...
Silent Empathy

Silence is one of the most effective forms of communication. —Proverb You may be listening to a friend describe something that is very painful for her. You’d really like to empathize but you don’t trust your skills. Consider silent empathy. It is exactly the same process as empathy—listening for the feelings and needs of the other person—except that it’s done silently. When you listen for the...
4 Steps to Effective Feedback

what matters to us. Yet many of us also have at least some times where we struggle to speak up or give feedback. We may censor what’s true for us - and, as a result, not get our needs met or lose trust and connection with others and ourselves. What gets in the way of speaking up? We'll explore the answers to this question and how to overcome our fear step-by-step this 12 day course. You will...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 5

and feelings connected to them, then we better access the right hemisphere of the brain and regulate the neural networks in the body. Needs are universal abstract qualities such as acceptance, trust, belonging, connection, and fun that are not attached to specific people, actions, or outcomes. Problem solving and strategizing to meet our needs puts us in the left hemisphere of the brain. If we...