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The Book of Love

my partner and I found a really sweet way to end our late night conversations. One of us would ask the other: "Could you tell me something I do that meets your need for love?" There's such a trust in asking that. And the person who was asked also savored the moment. Usually they would say, "Just a minute, I want to find a really juicy one." Then they would come out with it: "Yes, when you made a...
Honor Your Need to be Heard

to be clear about wanting a particular quality of listening, and that you are willing to wait if that isn’t available in the moment. Read on for how to ask for listening in a way that can build trust that your request isn't a demand. Read this article Keywords: dialogue demand requests connecting requests receptivity LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Authority Vs. Power Over / Power Under

In a "power with" consciousness you're aware of, and responsible for, your needs and values while considering and hearing others needs. Whereas regarding someone with earned authority, you trust her capacity and discernment is based on her experience and expertise. Read on for signs of when you are slipping into power under, power over, or power with, and how that fits with earned authority....
Crafting Connection Requests

will really work for you (your solution request), but where you imagine your desired outcome may not work for the other person, and/or are not sure there is sufficient connection for mutual trust. Read this practice exercise Keywords: connection request Inbal Kashtan Miki Kashtan
How to Balance Differentiation and Bonding

happens, you can authentically express differences and unmet needs, and responsibly do your own thing without it being a threat to the bond with another. You honor each others choices. There's trust rather than a sense of resentful obligation, needs-based negotiation is easier. Notice signs of not enough differentiation or bonding in the relationship. See if you tend to emphasize only one of...
Needs-Based Negotiation

the view that when quality connection is established, creative generosity of heart and collaboration becomes accessible. Then strategies honoring everyone’s needs are easier. This requires us to trust connection, hear needs, brainstorm, experiment, prepare, and a confidence that everyone’s needs can be met. What derails this? A sense of urgency, listening through our (dis)likes or opinions, and...
Understanding Arguments Against NVC

but still use ‘NVC language’ others may think the issue is NVC rather than the person’s capacity. This week, notice even a small instance where someone is against something you suggest. To build trust and connection, experiment with offering empathy or asking them to share what they think, feel, or need. Read this practice exercise Keywords: NVC living NVC applying NVC learning NVC sharing NVC...
Five Communication Guidelines For Change Agents

makers about social change issues it helps to communicate with compassion, clarity, curiosity, calm, and respect while seeking to understand their needs. This way there’s a better chance for more trust and connection that’s crucial for a win-win strategy to come about. This may take several conversations. Read this article Keywords: social change activism communication decision maker negotiation...
Choose Your Words

conditions that heal those who look to you for help. With this guide learn to notice when your approach is likely to trigger defense and how to shift that to more authenticity, understanding and trust. Read this ebook Keywords: healthcare neurodivergence authenticity understanding defensive mental health OFNR empathy blame responsibility Melanie Sears
The Facilitator's Role

in this excerpt from her very popular 2021 course, Facilitate NVC Groups with Joy and Confidence. She also covers a variety of useful tips such as what to do if you feel lost or confused, how to trust your gut, and ideas around utilizing empathy for yourself! Keywords: Mary Mackenzie Facilitating NVC Groups with Joy and Confidence sharing NVC Group Facilitation Tips purpose Marshall Rosenberg...