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Empathy And Strategies For Overwhelm

overwhelm as it comes. Apply self-compassion. Be suspicious of your impulse to withdraw. Find ways to meet your needs. Tell others about your overwhelm. This may allow more support, connection and trust-building. Plan what to do to meet your needs next time you're overwhelmed. Tweak your plan. Read this practice exercise Keywords: overwhelm reactivity LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Beyond the Limits of Empathy

the shooting rate from 10-20% in earlier wars to 80 and 90% in later wars. The cost, he warns us, is unprecedented massive trauma to war veterans as well as to the nation that sent them to war. Trusting Human Nature If we believe that humans are fundamentally evil and unruly, or at best plain old selfish, a view which still underlies most of the institutions we have in place, we will naturally...
Enemy Images Process and Exercise

that it didn't bother me, and forgave him, rather than being authentically honest with him about how I felt (which was very disappointed and frustrated) and the needs of mine that were impacted (trust, predictability and consideration). From that point forward, each time I saw this person or even thought about him, I noticed an immediate thought: bad person! Irresponsible person! Someone who...
Empathic Connection and Politics

comes on top of what appears to be a radical misinformation campaign surging internationally through media outlets and social media that is tearing at the foundation and fabric of basic social trust and cohesion, and which has only magnified and intensified since the 2016 U.S. presidential election. Society is increasingly dividing itself into polarized, tribal in-groups living inside of...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 1

When we think we know what is best for others and offer unsolicited help, or when we let others be in charge of us and be our experts, we are not contributing to empowerment, autonomy and self-trust. If someone does not want empathy or advice from me, I ask them to tell me what kind of support they would like. Keywords: self restraint empathy requests strategies contribution responsibility self...
From Obedience and Shame to Freedom and Belonging

biology of love rather than a patriarchal biology of dominance and submission. I highlight the principles of mothering, natural authority, gift economy and need orientation, nonviolence, and self-trust that both bodies of literature point to. I look at how patriarchy started and reproduces itself despite humanity having evolved in the biology of love. Using the metaphor of cancer, I show...
Understanding Earned Authority and Dissolving Projections

influence them to project their ideals, fears, hopes, and more onto you. In this case, you can help transform this and contribute to their connection to their own agency, authenticity, and self-trust -- while supporting their ability to learn from what you have to offer. Read this article Keywords: earned authority power under power over boundaries projection LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotions

or joy—without becoming stuck. Her approach creates a safe space to connect with your feelings while staying grounded. If you’re ready to take the first step toward emotional freedom and self-trust, let Mary guide you on this empowering journey. Keywords: Mary Mackenzie feelings exercises/practices captions searchable transcript
The Needs Underneath a Need for Fairness

“should” happen. I am concerned that using this language more likely will lead to separation rather than connection. I tend to believe that, overall, what we long for when we invoke “fairness” is trust that everyone’s needs will matter. Often I imagine that we’re worrying that someone’s needs won’t be considered, and we want “fairness” for these people. In the example you brought forward, I...
Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

love for them? Colleague: Exactly. I can’t stand to see them be so fearful. And I also am worried what my colleagues are going to think of me if they find out how lenient I am. You: So you want to trust that your colleagues will respect your teaching style? And so on and so forth. If you stick with empathic dialogues with your colleagues, they will feel such relief from being heard and...