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From Obligation To Giving from the Heart

You value generosity and you often give easily from the heart. There are those times, however, when you get snagged by a sense of obligation. You feel tense and resentful. You don't want to continue with this attitude, but how can you reconnect with the desire to give from the heart? Let’s touch on three essential elements that support giving from the heart: choice, mourning, and acceptance....
Commitment

consciousness that we want to get our own way or that the other person doesn’t care, we diminish the opportunity for success before we’ve even opened our mouth. Commitment is about living from our values even when it’s uncomfortable and tiring. It is a choice. I once heard a speaker say that he had finally met his soul mate. He asked the audience if they knew how he knew that. They said no, but...
Idiomatic vs. Formal Compassionate Communication

of the language is very valuable for people just learning the Compassionate Communication process. However, the true foundation of Compassionate Communication is to maintain a consciousness that values everyone’s needs. If you can truly maintain that consciousness without using the formality of the four components, go for it! For example, formal use of the four components might be: “When you...
What’s Important to You?

don't write them down a second time. Once the list is complete (all smaller groups have shared their discoveries), I point out that what they have created is, in NVC terms, a list of human needs/values. I mention that it's interesting to me that we all know these needs and values. (After all, they created an amazing list in 5 minutes!) Clearly the needs and values are natural to us, but when the...
What Is In Your Power To Change?

my stress are precious needs for reassurance, inner and outer peace, and trust. This also includes a longing for political and world leaders who create policies and make decisions that reflect my values. Specifically, I can’t express deeply enough my utter horror at the growing number of mass killings that are taking place in the USA. This horror was exacerbated recently when two mass shootings...
All in

Access this complete 7 session course When you consider making the full-on commitment to living nonviolently, do you … Worry that in some situations you will compromise your own needs? Wonder if it's even possible? Struggle to trust yourself to have what it takes? I used to feel that way too. Now, after some years of being on this path, I feel more able to face life, to trust myself to work out...
Connecting To Your Needs in Relationships

Trainer Tip Whoever is happy will make others happy too. —Anne Frank Many people evaluate their relationships based on their perception of how the other person feels. I did this for years. I would decide that a relationship was good or bad based on whether my partner was enjoying it. This left me feeling insecure and confused. A more effective way to evaluate relationships is to check in with...
Street NVC

Access this complete 4 session course Are you finding yourself grappling with the NVC model despite your familiarity or practice? Do you often feel stuck or find it challenging to make it feel natural or authentic in your interactions? Dian guides you towards embodying the essence of NVC—a mindset of connection and collaborative engagement. Through her expertise, you'll discover invaluable...
Key Differentiations in Nonviolent Communication

Veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Sylvia Haskvitz, reviews the key distinctions (sometimes referred to as the key differentiations) in Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Listen to this audio to deepen your NVC consciousness and skills through differentiating "giraffe" concepts, themes and habits from "jackal" concepts, themes and habits. This audio is recommended for people new to the NVC process or...
Being Compassion or Doing Compassion

Trainer Tip The problem comes when we want to cling to a particular thought or idea. The mind always wants to cling. I’m 60 years old, and if I’m still clinging to being 40, then I’m in trouble. —Ram Dass Sometimes I hear people say things like, “I didn’t do Compassionate Communication this week.” Or “I tried Compassionate Communication when I was arguing with my wife last week.” Compassionate...