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Radical Understanding In A Post-Truth World

nonjudgmental you may think yourself to be (as I tend to believe), if you are like me there is a level at which judgment rears up, when our most sacred and cherished, deeply-held beliefs and values about ourselves, the world, and reality are challenged in some way. It then seems to become primal, survival-oriented. A tremendous impulse erupts to fight back or move away from what seems so wrong,...
The Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication

in order to remain present with yourself and others amidst today's challenges. Fully empower your place and engagement in life, cultivate and strengthen your center. The center is where your values lie, your heart center, and the center of your life force energy as it flows through you. When you act from your center, fueled by love, you start to harness a force beyond what you have known is...
Living Compassion in an Ever-Changing World

live life to the fullest. The primary focus of this program is to support the development of the consciousness of our Life force, which manifests as the energy and beauty inherent in our needs and values. The focus is to establish a clear pathway to identifying, experiencing, and cultivating this consciousness. About the Facilitator: Robert Gonzales' work in Living Compassion emerged from a...
What to do When Racial Oppression and Privilege Collide

First, I would briefly acknowledge the white woman. I would gain clarity on what was under her distress - perhaps she was shocked to realize she’d just done something that wasn’t in line with her values around race and equality. Through reflecting back her unmet needs behind her distress, I would let her know I still saw her humanity while inviting her and other participants into awareness of a...
Navigating Uncertainty

of irreversible choices. This approach maintains focus on what is known and prevents getting lost in the unknown. Rigor is essential, especially when familiar pathways don't align with desired values. In times of high stakes and uncertainty, such as dealing with a health crisis, the challenge is to resist the urge to speculate on countless possibilities and instead concentrate on the facts at...
Beyond the Limits of Empathy

despite being moved to do something caring we didn’t because of fear? Jason Marsh, in his response to Brooks, retells the story of Samuel and Pearl Oliner’s research findings about the empathic values on which rescuers – people who saved Jews during the Holocaust – were raised. The Oliners also point out that rescuers tended to be raised with little punishment. When there is no punishment, there...
Listening Beyond the Words

to empathize first, and when it may be time to set clear limits and express your own needs. This session highlights the power of “giraffe ears” as well as the importance of staying true to your values. Keywords: Oren Jay Sofer empathy self-empathy needs feelings observations requests connection compassion choice captions searchable transcript
Secure Differentiation

Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. Are you happier when you are not in an intimate relationship? If so, you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn...
Accountability, Love, Shame, and Working for Transformation

compassion -- and still confront people about the harmful impact of their actions, hold them accountable, take action, speak truth and advocate for change... all in a manner fully aligned with our values and vision? Read on for how we can do accountability; what kind of action we take and with what motivation; and what our movements for change can look like from this lens. Read this article...
How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

may "listen" to us to gather evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask direct, honest questions. Read this...